Are you finding it hard to date? Why do some people have a hard time finding a date? Is it hard to find someone to date these days?
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Dating is an important stage in building a relationship because it allows you to get to know your partner. But what if you don't want to date? Will you let fate decide if there is someone out there for you, or will you choose to be single for the rest of your life?
What are the most common reasons why someone doesn't want to date or is having a hard time finding a date even though they want to? Here are some of the common reasons why people have a hard time dating.
Inferiority Complex
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Some of us have difficulty finding the courage to date because of our inferiority complex. Physical unattractiveness can be one of the reasons for developing an inferiority complex. If someone feels that they are not attractive, they may start to think in advance that other people will not like them.
Being poor can also cause an inferiority complex. When people are poor, they may feel like they don't have the same opportunities as others. They may feel like they're not good enough, or that they'll never be able to achieve their dreams. This can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, especially in fancy places.
High Standards
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Having high standards will make it difficult for anyone to find a date. Sometimes, we want to hook up with desirable, famous, and wealthy people. The problem is that none of these types of people may exist in our circle, or they may not be interested in us.
Because of this, we are limiting our dating pool. Instead of there being many fish in the ocean, now there are only a few. The probability of those few people liking us back is not guaranteed.
Financial Status & Goals
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When you struggle to feed yourself, you may think twice about dating. Dating requires money. If you're a girl, you need to fix yourself up and dress well, and if you're a man, you need to at least pay for the first date. Instead of using your money for a date, you might prefer to save it and wait until you have enough.
Time is also money, some people would rather spend their time working than using it to date. For them, earning money is more worthwhile than asking someone to go out on a date.
Excess Baggage
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Some singles have kids. Regardless of how beautiful or handsome they are, having a kid is a major obstacle when it comes to dating. When you are a single parent, finding a date is hard unless you kept your child a secret. Not so many people are open to dating someone who has an extra baggage in their life. Not all people will be willing to take responsibility for someone else's child. In the end, some single parents will just choose to be with someone who will accept and love them regardless of their feelings; their child will always come first.
Emotional Trauma
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Some of us have emotional trauma from past relationships that we can't let go of. This trauma holds us back from trusting another person in our life again. Emotional trauma leaves a deep scar, which makes it difficult for us to go on dates.
Lack of Social Skills
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Some people really don't know how to interact with others. They don't know how to start a conversation or how to react when someone talks to them. Women who lack social skills don't know how to react when someone approaches them, while men with no social skills don't know how to approach a woman. Lacking social skills is a real hurdle in finding a date because others might misinterpret it as you having no interest in them.
Opportunities
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Some people really don't have many opportunities to date because there are not many options available to them. Living in a small community in the countryside gives you fewer choices of whom to date; either people are already married, too young, or you just don't like them. Some girls with strict parents also have fewer opportunities. Overprotective families can be the cause of why some people are having a hard time finding a date or being found by someone. They can't go to parties without a chaperone, and they can't go to places alone.
These are only some of the common reasons why some people have a hard time finding a date for themselves. The good news is that these factors can be solved and should not be a hurdle that keeps you single for the rest of your life. Either time will change your point of view or someone will make you realize and change your ways.
What is your reason? Let me know in the comment section below.
