"When I love someone there isn't a sacrifice, I am not giving up anything, I am gaining."
Wonderful when it happens like this. Would you say this of all your loving relationships - family, lovers, friends, etc? Is this something that having your daughter changed for you?
I definitely resonate, and I try to prioritize relationships where "sacrifices" are really gains, but I feel like I do sacrifice from time to time for my loved ones, that I will do something I don't really want to, or give up something in order to care for them, or ride out some hard times that don't feel positive in the moment.
Yes having my daughter helped me along in not being selfish and enabled me to notice love. Love that I had taken for granted before. My family, I love them and anything I do for them purely comes from love. That isn't a sacrifice in my reality. We all have things we don't want to do, I view this as experiences, or maybe in that particular moment I just didn't feel like doing anything. Romantic Love I've recently discovered about 3 years ago. It's the same with him. Sure sometimes I don't want to do some of the things I need to do, or there's a step in our life that I'm not too convinced about, but I trust him and so we go forth. I don't view those things as a sacrifice, more like a step out of my comfort zone, if it works great, and if it doesn't it's an experience that I can call upon when we are faced with a similar issue in the future. Life is both negative and positive. We can't have one without the other. However, I appreciate them both and sacrifice doesn't feel like the right word in my reality to associate with my love.
Cool. Thank you for sharing so much of your personal experience.
Anytime, I like to talk about my experiences and hear other's as well. I'm always interested in what shapes a person. This was Pretty Cool jaredwood :)
Glad you got something out of it, brandi :) sounds like your loved ones are blessed to have you in their lives. I hope others have gotten to read this little exchange and be touched by your idea of love too.
Thank you that is really sweet. I'm glad I came across your post. I don't really comment a lot on here, but this was something I could definitely speak about first hand. This platform scared me initially because the people on here are so thought provoking and you can't just dial it in here. Love that about this place. Keep up the good work!!! :)
Yeah, the thought and talent on Steemit is totally mind boggling. I really appreciated what you had to say here, so I would encourage you to keep on commenting if you feel called. I kept writing about other thoughts on love, in case you're curious:
https://steemit.com/philosophy/@jaredwood/what-is-love-on-measuring-love-dimensions-of-love-2
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https://steemit.com/philosophy/@jaredwood/what-is-love-pluralist-love-dimensions-of-love-3
Thank you I will definitely check out the links you provided!!! :) I'll let you know what I think.