What took me to write this one is because my partner’s older brother told my him that I don’t love him. His reason? Merely because I let my partner go out with his brother without questions. LOL
I know and I understand that everyone has different views on what love is. I just think it is odd to think that it would depends on how “TIGHT” you are with your partner. He may have his reasons for saying it, and I do have mine to disagree.
So here are my reasons for letting my partner go out, have fun, get wild- without me.
TRUST
Personally I believe that every relationship needs more than love to survive. It needs a few bits of other things. Loyalty. Responsibility. Trust. And much much more. I’ve been with my partner for a number of years and not even once did he gave me a reason not to trust him. But of course, as a woman, I also have these little doubts when he’s out. Where is he? Who is he with? Is he having too much fun with someone else? But then I try to think on every single thing he does for me and that is more than enough to assure me. If you don’t trust your partner enough, then why would you be with him/her?
INDIVIDUALITY
I know a relationship should become a “we” or “ours”. But it doesn’t mean you have to lose the “me” and “you”. Though you and him/her are together, you should still keep each others individuality. At least that is something I believe in. It should be a balance of being together and being separately unique individuals. I don’t want to be taking all of his time. I’m more into making sure we have QUALITY time, than measuring the QUANTITY.
HE NEEDS IT
My partner works online. Home-based. His typical day is working for hours in the computer at home, playing online games, eating, sleeping and a few cuddles with me. That’s why I get excited when we go on a date (Yes, we still date :-p ). Partly because I get to eat out to my heart’s content because he usually ask me where I want to eat or go. And mostly because I’d love seeing my partner spending time outside our house. He needs the air outside. And it doesn’t always mean that he should be with me when he’s out. So when a family or a friend asks him out, I usually just give him a big nod and tell him to take care. He ALWAYS asks me to come with him whenever someone invites him out. So I have to be the one to refuse so he can also enjoy his time with others. As I say, I don’t want to be his only world. There’s just too much in the world he needs to enjoy as well, with or without me.
MATURITY
My last reason, MATURITY. He’s my partner. We have a child. We are a family. I don’t think this is still kids’ play. We both are still very playful, and sometimes childish. Of course, we enjoy life as much as we can. But there are things that you also need to be mature with. So if you think that being “STRICT” and “TIGHT” is a basis of someone’s love? Oh boy, you still have a long way to go. But maybe you can start by reading this blog post from one of my favorite blogs Difference Between A Mature Relationship And An Immature Relationship. That’ll help you distinguish their difference.
No Hate :-*