There is so much talk about how important it is to love ourselves, and I totally agree that it is really important to do this, because basically, if we don’t love ourselves then why should anyone else?
Every thought and action we think and do is energy that we are transmitting to others; so sending out signals of ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘no one likes me’, ‘I hate my body’ or other equally destructive thoughts is sending out signals to have more of the same. Is this what we want? Well, no of course not! So we really do need to learn how to send out positive signals so we can attract what we do want!
From my experience of life and helping others, I know it can be so easy for us to put ourselves down, it’s just happens, almost a second nature! Yet we just wouldn’t dream of saying half of the things we say to ourselves to other people!
Why are we so rude and nasty to ourselves?
The answer to this is probably that this is how other people have spoken to you and treated you, so you have taken it on as 'this is how I am being spoken to', but this is not right, and as the old saying goes:
Two wrongs don't make a right!
If other people are putting us down and speaking badly to us then this is a pattern we need to break and speaking to yourself in the same harsh way is really not kind and caring, I mean you really wouldn’t be this rude or uncaring to your best friend so you shouldn't be to yourself either!
Loving You
I’d like to share a concept with you that I wrote about in my book ‘Loving You – Discover Your True Inner Self’, and that is to be our own best friend. What this means is that we put in a filter between our self-talk and ourselves, and this filter is ‘would I say this to my best friend’, or anyone else even! If your answer is ‘no’ then it’s really time to start being your own best friend.
Often it is the simplest of ideas that sticks with us, and has the greatest impact on our lives, so please do give this a try. It is incredibly powerful and can really change how you talk to yourself!
We can make this concept even more powerful by then giving ourselves the great advice and tips that we would our best friend. If you’re anything like me, then you probably are full of enthusiasm, empathy and solutions when someone shares an issue with you and really want to uplift and help the person as much as you can.
Imagine how much better you would feel if you showered yourself with all this love and helpful advice!
So often we are too close to our own issues to see the solution, however when we take a step back and imagine we are ‘our own best friend’, then it becomes easier to see the issue in a different light and give yourself the same loving support, tips and advice that you would someone else.
There is only one person who is always going to be in your life from start to end and that is YOU, so make friends with yourself and make your life easier!
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I like the idea of the best friend filter. I will think about that. :)
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Thanks! It works really well for me! :)
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I agree with yours post.
Thank you :)
This is so deep and true, I see myself reflected here as if you had written this post just for me!
This week I would like to shower myself with all the advice! Maybe those around me will breathe a sigh of relief.
Wow, how wonderful! :) I know I often have to take my own advice on this one, it's a work in progress for many of us, but once we see it like this then it's easier to catch ourselves in the act!
May you be your own best friend and shower yourself with advice! <3
Excellent post! I think Love starts within, and if you cannot feel good about being you and you do not Love yourself, you cannot Love others. Eliminate the negative within you, and feel good about being yourself. Every journey starts with the first step, so take it.
Have a great day! :-)
Thanks! :)
Yes love starts within and it is so sad when so many people weren't shown love as a baby and a child so they don't have or feel this love. It's quite a task for them to find it, but knowing that it is needed is a first step!
Have a great day too! :)