It is not everyone that end up with their first love. Let's say 95% of the world don't. While growing up, our parents imagined so much about our firsts: the first time we started to talk, crawl, stand, walk, grew a tooth, eat, sat down e.t.c.
We get to a certain age where we know about the opposite sex and we start looking forward to our first date, first kiss, etc. Then finally, someone comes and sweeps us off our feet, and we start thinking we'll end up with them, then we start to match our names/surnames.
I remember how much I was in love with my first love
He was everything I wanted my husband to be, he was handsome and I've never wanted to date anyone just for the fun of it, I usually ask myself if I could marry them, and if I could not, then I can't date them. I met the guy when I was done with high school, and about to get admitted into the university. He was cute, tall, and dark. I had gone to my aunt's cyber cafe though she wasn't around so I decided to browse a little and I met this guy there also, he kept stealing glances at me, and finally he asked for my number when I was done and ready to leave.
We became imaginary couples and everyone loved how close we were. I had my first kiss and I felt like I was his only girl and he was my everything. But then, when he got an admission into the university he switched and said he wants a good result and would be needing to focus, that I'm his weakness, and that I distract him a lot. I said ok, but it was hard for me.
I cried because this was someone I just couldn't do without, someone I had sacrificed a lot for. He was my breath. I thought that we were inseparable, but it happened! He stopped calling, chatting . So I kept to myself, and faced my school. I began to realize that I could live without this guy, after all(maybe I was built not to be broken by anything). I began to forget him, but his memories were still there. Some months later, he started calling me again once in a while, and even offered to see me in my school.
I came to terms with the fact that he didn't really owe me a thing; I did those things out of love and I shouldn't regret it or expect a payback. So, I healed and let go! But? God blessed me with someone so amazing!
Three years later, he came back, and started professing his love again, telling me he was sorry and couldn't live without me. Gave me reasons why he had left. He said he wanted to marry me. Well, too sad I already moved on. He was my first love, and he was ready to do anything to get me back but I already learned how to live without him.
Sometimes we get so deep in love so great that we feel once that person leaves, our whole world will fall apart. Some people will go to the extent of committing suicide, really? You kill yourself, and then you let them live with their new love? Sweetheart, your last love is more important than your first love! It irritates me when I see girls that can't let go of their ex(s).
My man's ex hasn't moved on. She's still matching her name and his surname. How do you do all these for a guy that hasn't married you, a guy that is not even interested in you? And you want to find a new man! No, you can't find a new man, you can't find happiness until you let go of that person that didn't work out!
Sometimes, we fall out of love, all you need to do is move on if the other person is not willing to work it out! Love yourself so much not to settle for less. You may have multiple dates after your breakup, and you find out you don't love them. That's ok! But be sure it's not because you holding on to an ex that doesn't even think of you. Your first love is called that just because they are part of a series of "firsts" and they are not to be part of your life. It's no big deal! There's always a first time of something in our lives. You should be more concerned about who your last love is. That person you can finally love without having to love someone else. If your first still ends up being your last, Cool! Go with the flow, but there's nothing like "you are my first love, and I can't forget you".
Your last love is someone you should love and show attention to. People always complain about how others got away from them, so they say to their new dates "please don't leave me. They all left".That's nonsense If they left, then they are not the one for you. Please allow your ex(s) be! especially if they are in a new relationship! Stop disturbing them. If they wanted you, they'd have made efforts to resolve any issues and get back. Stop holding on to an ex until it gets to the point where you're old, and having chased everyone away from you, because you couldn't move on, then you start complaining of how wicked they are by leaving you.
Learn from the first but don't let them overwhelm your future decisions! Pray to marry your last love, so we can control the rate of divorce! Because you may even get back with your first, get married, have kids, but along the line, you realize that there's no more love between the two of you. What do you do? You start looking for happiness somewhere else.
DO NOT FORCE RELATIONSHIP
I think we hold the same believes.
You sound like you have tasted the ugly sides of love that's not what determines how much one knows about love but you have learnt!
Finally, everyone would realize love alone isn't enough.
After all the hurts, we would finally say "What have I been thinking! Time to move on"
No one should stay in a place where they are not happy.
Most ladies has tasted the ugly sides of love and of which I have also and some of them are not willing to learn from it.
It is not nice thinking about the past, we should focus on our new relationship and cherish it
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Your first love at times isn't your truest love.
That is true