Thank you @happycrazycon, that means a lot! As I said to @crosheille above it's nice to see I'm not the only former emotional blackmailer :)
I am surrounded by many couples who say they don't fight so, I thought I'm the only weird one, you know.
You're definitely not the only weird one, and that's partly why I wanted to write this post the way I did! I think it's wonderful when people don't have issues with their spouses, but when you only read stuff to that effect, it can be a little discouraging. I'm glad you found the post helpful, and thank you, too!