I’m not sure how many of you know of “The Love Dare” book by Stephen & Alex Kendrick? It’s based on the movie Fireproof and I would recommend it to any married couple out there. Many couples have grown stagnant in their relationship. Many are in a rut or just living day by day past each other. Then there are those, and this is how most of us are, who live in a comfort zone. This is especially true for men. We used to go after the girl, get her attention, take care of her, make her smile and be all nice to her but as soon as we got her we sit down to relax and do nothing about it. Why would we want to right? I mean we’ve already got her so no need to hunt anymore. Well that is the wrong attitude and that is why so many people are unhappy in their relationships and why the divorce rate is so high.
This is why I decided to do the 40 Day love challenge. Now I’m not saying I have a bad relationship, on the contrary, but any relationship, even mine, can be better. A person always risks falling into that rut of a comfort zone. Now I’m talking to both men and woman here. However, my challenges and experiences I’m going to share with you are going to be from my viewpoint so men you will be able to benefit from this. But ladies please use what you can from this. Spice up that marriage!!!
Do you remember the first time you laid eyes on your spouse/partner and how they made your heart skip a beat every time they looked at you? The sleepless nights you had because you knew you were going to see them the next day and you couldn’t wait for the dawn to break just so that you could rush over to their house to see them? The long hours you spent talking and talking and talking about almost anything, and before you realized it was almost morning.
That LOVE you had for each other is still there. It always has been…you just forgot about it. Love starts out as a FEELING but love in its purest form is a CHOICE. A choice of what you may ask? Well, it’s a choice to put another person’s needs in front of yours. That doesn’t mean your needs aren’t important but it says that your spouse’s needs are MORE important than yours.
Does that mean you will never FEEL the love again and that you will have to CHOOSE to love your spouse the rest of your life despite the fact that you feel nothing? Well of course not! Remember I spoke of the times you were so madly in love with each other and the butterflies you got in your stomach when you just thought of them? Well even though that is gone now IT'S NOT gone forever. Those feelings CAN and they WILL return but it’s not going to happen by waving a magic wand in the air. You have to make a conscious decision to love your partner no matter what. Eventually those feeling will come back and you’ll realize why you fell in love with them in the first place.
Now this is not always easy. Love is not just about the words you say but about your actions as well. Some find it easier to do than others. It all depends where your relationship is at the moment and how willing you are to do what it takes. However, it is never too late. Now I can’t guarantee your spouse/partner will reciprocate but what I can guarantee is that it’ll change YOU and they will notice it.
This 40-day challenge is not about changing your partner but it is about changing YOU. So,in the next 40 days I am going to share with you the daily challenge I had to do and my findings on it. I’ll share any experiences I’ve had as well as any difficulties I might have encountered so that you can learn from my successes as well as my mistakes.
I want to dare you to take this challenge with me. Either purchase the book (physical or digital) or you could just follow my blog every day and do the challenges as I reveal them to you. Make sure to follow me in order not to miss any of the challenges. Really make a QUALITY DECISION to attempt these challenges.
Become a better husband or wife. Get that spark back in your relationship. Make her long for you. Make him look at you the way he did when you first met. The Love hasn’t died…it’s just dormant and it needs to be reawakened.
My Love Dare Challenge starts tomorrow and I hope you will take this journey with me.
See you then…