Love is cogent part of life and sustenance that makes our coexistence matter. The connection we have for those we love erupts in a wonderful feeling making us hallucinate them as a delicious treat we always want to have. This we all know is the foundation on which any relationship is based which could be mentally exaggerated in the first few months because of the high presence of dopamine in our brains leading to little objectivity and more obsession at that phase.
This is the reason why love shouldn’t always be the only determinant for any relationship but rather considerations should be made as regards other nitty-gritty qualities that are the main factors which will determine the longevity of such relationship/association. With that being said, I would be explaining some things that should also be considered to guarantee a cellular bond like type of relationship.
How much do you respect him or her
Respecting an individual means we operating at a higher level of self-awareness and control when dealing with such person as it helps eradicate immaturity and bring about a standard level of treatment. This is because when you respect an individual, you always want to be your at the best of behaviour whenever you are around them, you admire them and support their sense of judgment.
Are you crazily attached to each other
There should be a special connection, an attraction between you both beyond just the sexual. The sexual attraction would definitely wear off after a while so if the relationship was built on that, it definitely would come to an end the moment the sexual attraction is gone. That is why you have to be attracted to your partner personality as it would help you feel free and more comfortable in the relationship.
You agree on basic things
Your love is truly the one for you when you guys operate at the same level in relations to ideas, perspective, philosophies from the small things to the big things. You could however, cut yourselves some slack in relation to the small differences
between you guys and have no problem compromising your beliefs once in a while.
He/she is your confidant
When you find out that you are free and more open to share with that person any and almost everything such as your successes, you insecurities, goals and aspirations and still feel safe without expecting any form of degradation or backlash then that person is the one for you.
You get to be the best version of yourself
You get the chance to be free and extensive for your desires without any form or intimidation from he/she as your love is not threatened by your success but rather your partner becomes a support system willing to help you become the best version of you. When he/she is the one it becomes so evident that you have no reason to question your place in his/her life. There are no games that could lead to insecurities, you communicate regularly, trust each other and cooperate toward finding beneficial solutions to whatever situation or challenge faced.
A relationship where you don’t feel safe means you just might not experience true love because love is high level, interesting and can only grow as you progress.
Good post
Thanks :)
How much do you respect him or her. Is a strong point. The way you respect it each matters lot.
He/she is your confidant, that is so true. I get shocked when people who say they are in love don't tell each other things but tell their friends. When you are in love with some he/she should be your best friend.
Thanks for taking time out to read :)
Wow this is lovely...a most read for young guys and girls before entering a relationship...i really most applaud you for this @steemlifestyle 👏 nice piece 👍