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Fellow steemians, taking you through this course, I'll need you to lend me your time by reading this for comprehension.
The word "marriage" is a subject on its own and slightly complicated as there are too many teachings that tend to confuse us on which principles to adopt in the long-run.
Firstly it is pertinent to know the meaning of marriage and what it entails as most often confuse it with wedding.
Wedding is only a ceremonial aspect of marriage. The suit, bridals gown, bridal shower the goat or cow or chicken or Turkey you slaughter, the party at the reception, all happen in order day are all that make up wedding. After everyone ate, drink, present you gift, and wish you happy married life, there wedding ends. And the journey of Marriage begins
You can however impress the world by calling a party like a prince would do but Do you have what it takes to make the marriage last a lifetime? This is a question everyone thinking of going into a marriage should ask him or herself. And after you're able to get a good answer, then you're good to go.
Most young men and women of nowadays marry out of either infatuation, lust or desperation. Most, their parents have contributed immensely to their wrecked marriage through the pressure they mount on them to look for a partner and get married because the parents feel they're getting older and not find partner at a certain age. Though they may be right in one way or the other but it all count on whether you have what it takes to marry. This happen a lot in Africa and it's becoming outrageous.
Love for Sex, kisses, hugs affection should be ruled as prerequisites for getting married to someone though they cannot be underestimated. But the fact is they should not be the base for signing a marriage agreement as it is a union of two with a lifelong agreement to be together.
Knowledge as the principal thing is most required to build and have a successful marriage. Having the right knowledge about what you're about to undertake is very vital.
You need :
knowledge
Understanding
Information
...to get it right in your marriage.
These three things are very important and paramount. The absence of one may make the others useless.
Having a mere understand without information and knowledge about marriage does not make it whole. Also having understanding and information without the right knowledge amount to trying to move a car without fuel . Understanding is only ability for comprehension.
Someone can possess a license to drive and still cannot drive.
Listening to motivational messages, reading books, advice from successful couple can help one gain more knowledge about marriage . Prepare for marriage and not to preparing in marriage as trying to cure a disease is no good than preventing it.
It is very important that both partners acquire or possess the right knowledge about marriage before they can boast of success in it. For instance, knowing and understanding what is termed gender difference by both parties will help them in handling each other's behavior. Psychologically, women are said to be the talking type which is in cognitive dissonance to that of a man. That is, women talk a lot as compared to men, which is why if a man talks too much, he is seen as being effeminate. And Biblically a man is created for a woman to meet all her needs. So as a man, you must understand this, that you must listen to her no matter what she is saying either meaningful or meaningless. One of her need is that she needs someone to talk to, otherwise you return from work one day and police is waiting for you because your wife had gossipped what turned trouble. You need to hear her out. You don't like to talk, but she likes to, this is one of the differences between you both.
As a woman, you must also understand men are attracted to what they see, while women are most attracted to what they hear. So must learn how to attract your man so he doesn't look elsewhere for it.
Get knowledge now, so you won't have to search for it.
I hope this will helps.
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This is a perfect guide; a good masterpiece.
Love is not enough in marriage. There are other ingredients required to acquire a certain level of mastery. Though there are no hard and fast rules that guarantee these procedures ,as what works for one may/maynot work for another but you cannot hypothesize that because there are so many accidents on the highway, taking precautions was entirely useless. So precautions you must take no matter what the outcome might be. So on this premise, you require all the information you can gather about marriage. Information will vest upon you knowledge and then understanding which will in turn confer on you the authority required to make your marriage work. Thank you for this post
What a great comment. Thanks for stopping by Mam.
That's our mummy talking out of experience..
As a single guy, I get scared of the word "marriage" I only pray for God's guidance. Make I no go marry the wrong woman.
Prayer is the key. But with the right prayer. Let's pray to God to guide us I'm choosing the right person.
Marriage scares me ooo, nice post bro
Lol. You don't have to. It also measures the ability of a man to take challenges.
Marriage! A union of two people with different backgrounds, training and mentality, with no definite formular. Its only when the originator is involved that a marriage survives.