Movies in the United States and abroad have created ideas about marriage that involve two people "falling in love" and all of their dreams coming true. The story-line is usually a romantic love story with a couple who beats the odds and overcomes the challenges that threaten their relationship. Sometimes in the end, the inseparable couple gets married, and as we all know.. they live happily ever after. But is that what it's like in real life?
Here are details of my marriage that aren't usually included in the entertainment industry's portrayal of a perfect marriage:
Our “happily ever after” did not start the moment we read our vows. It started around 7 years after our marriage and it didn’t happen until we learned enough about each other, life and ourselves to reconcile our differences and live in harmony with one another (this can take a long time and it is usually not portrayed in movies).
Romance is not what led to becoming a happily ever after. I have found that caring about the other person and showing concern is a more reliable relationship tactic than sensing out romantic (emotional) highs.
Problems did not cease the moment we started living a happily ever after. There are still challenges and problems will always show up sooner or later but that is not a part of our marriage per se, it's an aspect of life.
So to cut to the chase, a perfect marriage is one that involves mutual respect, trust and an ability to understand each other. If a husband & wife (or wife & wife / husband & husband) have that, they are in a perfect marriage. It might not always feel perfect but feelings don't always reflect reality.
I have to constantly remind myself that feelings don't reflect reality sometimes. Marriage is SO hard (we are 5 years in) But I can't imagine spending my life with any other person. :-)
It sounds like you love your husband dearly.
Hi @lulabelle,
How is everything? It's been 5 more years since this post.
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Great article, thank you for being real on the situation of marriage. You have a beautiful family!
Thanks @saviib In my view, a stable marriage is already a perfect marriage. It might not be on par with the fantasies of the entertainment industry but it is a realistic perfection that actually exists.
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