Your wealth and wisdom are the average value of the 5 friends you have intimate contact with.
Because you will communicate with your close friends, communicate with each other, transmit information and influence each other, and then change your way of thinking and behavior.
However, I believe that not only wealth, but also a person's character, outlook on life, spiritual pursuit and even lifestyle are all related to his closest friends.
What a person's best friends look like is basically the same.
A friend's view of marriage is his view of marriage.
Before I went out with Mr Guan, he took me to dinner with his good friends.
The place was set at friend a's house. when we arrived, friend a and friend b were already cooking.
Seeing this situation, I wanted to go in and help. They pushed me out and said that the kitchen was very oily and the girls were just waiting to eat.
Mr Guan said to me, " let them do it and I will watch TV with you."
Turning his head, he shouted to the kitchen, " it's a long time not to eat spicy food, you don't put chili!"
The kitchen immediately heard a response: " If it weren't for the beauty's sake, let me cook for you? Dream! "
At the dinner table, perhaps in order not to embarrass me, they tore down each other's tables, poked fun at each other's feelings, revealed each other's embarrassing history, and made the atmosphere extremely happy.
At the same time of joy, I also gradually understand their emotional state.
Friend A, who was with his ex-girlfriend for more than two years, poured out his heart and lungs, was on call, paid her all her wages, and took care of her other parents and brothers as his own relatives. But in the end, the girl said frankly that she didn't want his small house and broke up with an uncle with a villa.
Everyone advised A not to feel sad for such a girl, but A still said at the dinner table that she had the right to choose what she wanted. I just didn't meet her expectations, nothing.
Friend B, who grew up in a prosperous family and never touched the high water with his fingers, was willing to washing my hands to make the bridal soup after meeting his present girlfriend. After getting married, his wife became pregnant. He even accompanied him to gain 20 kg. He always said that he was fat because his wife had all the money and could no longer afford the gym card.
After sitting down for more than half an hour, he said he would go home to accompany his wife and apologized to me for inviting us to his home next time.
Birds of a feather flock together. The core circle of friends of adults must be brought together by similar views.
If your partner is close to a friend who is not loyal to his feelings, then at least he doesn't dislike this practice.
If your partner makes all good family friends, then his basic view of marriage will also be honest.
And friends and friends also influence each other.
Therefore, before getting married, one must see if his friends can bring him a positive impact.
The spiritual level of a friend is his spiritual level.
Luo Luo, a good friend, is the backbone of the company, a white-collar elite who earns a lot of money, but has been unable to find a suitable target.
On one occasion, she went on a blind date. Although the other party's income was mediocre and she was not very good at expressing herself, she looked delicate and gentle, so she felt that she could get to know her again.
Who knows, halfway through the meal, the man called a friend of his.
As soon as the friend took his seat, the blind date's man opened the chatterbox, and the more he said it, the more excited he was, all praising the friend.
He said, this is my good brother Afeng. We were together when we wore open - backed pants. His father is a well-known real estate dealer in the city, and the girls who like him don't know how many.
Then, the maple pretended to casually throw the key of the luxury car on the table, raised his hand to reveal his watch and began to brag.
He said, my brother is just fighting for justice. The last time I was tangled up by a girl, he helped me block the rotten peach blossoms.
There is a game room in my family, in which we can play games for three or four days, eat and drink, and he can not even go to work.
The last time I celebrated my birthday, many local internet celebrities were invited to me, all for money, which made him envious. I said that next time, I would definitely help him do such a thing. who would let us be brothers and share happiness and happiness?
After listening to the first paragraph, Luo Luo knew that this man could not do it. Although his friends were rich, they had a bad style of work. They were all things for common enjoyment and had no spiritual pursuit.
What is more terrible is that he is proud of having such a friend and may even wish to become the other party.
This man, perhaps seeing the natural and graceful conditions, felt a little inferior, so he called in rich friends to add letters to himself, but this just revealed his true heart.
Your friend is your class.
This kind of class does not mean that people can play together economically, but also refers to the resonance of the spiritual world.
What kind of friends a person chooses is not only the need to join a group for eating, drinking and having fun, but also the attraction of being able to talk together and appreciate each other.
Therefore, his friend is the reflection of his inner world.
Before getting married, enter his circle of friends and get to know his good friends so that you can have a better grasp of him.
The way friends meet is his way of life.
When my cousin falls in love with my cousin's brother - in - law, he seldom attends his party with his friends.
Cousins always say that men sing and drink together, and it's not interesting for you to go.
Moreover, cousin's brother-in-law had to drink until 3 or 4 a.m. every time, and he drunkenly called his cousin to pick him up.
Cousin had to go to work the next day, but out of uneasiness, she still got up to pick up her pants and was in poor working condition the next day.
At first, my cousin felt that when a man came to you after drinking, he had your performance in mind.
But such things happen two or three times a week. Cousin couldn't help it. He asked Cousin Cousin Cousin Cousin, can you stop drinking so late?
Cousins eyes a stare: " don't drink to others enjoy how line? Besides, don't drink now, do you still have time to come out for the party after getting married? You are my girlfriend, pick me up. What's the matter? "
Cousin thought he would be fine after he got married, but unexpectedly, after the child was born, cousin's brother-in-law still went to every wine shop, on the grounds that it was not good for his friend's face.
The friends of cousin's brother-in-law have never considered that there is still a starving baby to take care of in his family. All they care about is whether the wine is accompanied or not.
A person gathering with his family may conform to the preferences of his elders.
Meeting with leading colleagues may be arranged by the company.
However, in a person's social relations, the gathering with good friends can best reflect his real hobbies.
Getting together late into the night at the bar every day shows that these people have no self-control or even nothing to do.
On the weekend, I went to a friend's house to make tea and eat, and when I left, I also helped to clean up the dishes and take out the garbage, which showed that they enjoyed a steady and quiet atmosphere.
However, it is very difficult to change a person's real appearance because of marriage.
My parents' generation mainly rely on friends' introduction or elders' matchmaking.
You don't trust or like a person originally, but after the letters from friends and elders increase, you may be greatly improved.
Unlike professional matchmakers, such introductions and matchmaking are responsible.
The success of the match is not over yet. Friends and elders will often care about how you are doing. If you are not doing well, they will feel guilty.
Today, it is typical to look at each other's social circle first. What kind of person he is with is very important.
We often emphasize the influence of environment on a person, and a person's social circle is the " soft environment" in which a person lives.
There are a lot of people in the world who " emerge from the mud but not imbrued" and " close to the ink but not the ink".
Because, compared with blood and family ties, a person's circle of friends is his own choice from the heart.
What kind of friends one chooses is actually what kind of life one chooses.
Only by meeting his friends can you see his whole picture and have a more appropriate expectation of your future marriage.