We won't see a complete elimination of the existing marriage system in our lifetime, but it is bound to unravel and change. First of all, you need to account for several of the prerequisites for reading this article.
First, the author has no antisocial personality.
Second, " marriage" is a social system, is a concept of sociological category. We are also talking about the system itself. please do not misunderstand it. The discussion is general and not individual.
Third, I did not say against marriage, but only talk about why the existing marriage system does not conform to the context of the times, why not reasonable. I advocate multiple lifestyles and multiple values, so in my opinion, marriage is a choice, not a necessity. Life has nothing to do but death.
Fourth, everyone is different, there are suitable for their own way of life. If I touch the pain of people already in the siege, also please don't become angry from embarrassment to attack me. I'm talking about the system itself. if you feel happy, I wish you all the best.
Each person's cultural background knowledge structure thinking mode is different, the perspective of looking at the world is also different. Therefore, we can all keep our own views, do not need to debate, do not need to persuade me, I did not convince anyone, just to express my views.
Fifth, the article will involve " feminism" and a lot of maps, I said: feminism is for equal rights, for human rights equality.
Finally, welcome to put forward their own views exchange, learn from each other.
The birth of marriage system & the marriage system of agricultural civilization
Marriage is a social contract. It is the product of private ownership and the intangible cultural heritage of farming civilization in patriarchal society.
Because of the invention of the " salt", so the trophy to save hunting, pickling into property, thus " private ownership" was born gradually. Combined with hunting collection of the original way of life gradually transition to settle farming civilization, men as the main productive forces of agricultural society, tribal collective life with the matriarchal society gradually changed into a patriarchal society with family as a unit.
Because of " private ownership", so as a producer of men want property to be inherited, so he needs to confirm one thing: the successor must be his own flesh and blood. Therefore, the tradition of breeding offspring by the " sanglin society" is no longer adapted to the agricultural civilization of the social system. In ancient times, where DNA technology was not available to detect genes, the only simple and crude way to confirm blood vessels was to strictly control women's chastity and ensure that they were the only sex object for women who gave birth to their offspring.
In the era of " farming civilization", the marriage system through a ceremony, establish the relationship between the spouses of two people, declare the " sex" of the sole right. Women are not treated as a human individual, but as the husband's private property and dependents, in the agricultural social system, the relationship between the two sides of the marriage is unequal from the beginning, the essence of the marriage system is the property rights system.
This social contract is not a contract between husband and wife, but between men and other men divided between women " ownership" contract.
The marriage of the civilian class is mainly to reproduce, then population is productivity is everything. The aristocratic class is the accumulation and expansion of wealth, " when the door to door" marriage is a kind of political means, the extreme is " and". " marriage" and " love" is not necessarily linked, " brothel" is the main channel of literati love.
For thousands of years since the Han dynasty, the ethics of monarch, minister and son have been the mainstream values of society. So in the eyes of modern people shocking " chastity view" and " three from four virtues" binding women in the social context at that time is a kind of very reasonable for granted.
Ancient China has always been a " monogamous" system, but the full name is " monogamous concubine" system. Is ordinary, concubine is private property, no dignity as a person, even su Shi useful concubine yi horse this modern view of black history, but at that time, is not a moral stain. In the context of the times to think about, Tang Xianzu's " peony pavilion" is really a shocking work.
Because women have no productivity in that social system, can only depend on men to survive. " male main outside, female main inside", farming civilized marriage mode is: husband is CEO, have absolute voice, wife is subordinate property, similar to a live " artificial intelligence" small appliances, at most can be regarded as assistant.
Tomorrow we'll start talking about the marriage system of industrial civilization