Memoir
/ˈmemˌwär/ noun. a record of events written by a person having intimate knowledge of them and based on personal observation. Usually memoirs. an account of one's personal life and experiences; autobiography. the published record of the proceedings of a group or organization, as of a learned society.
It’s week ten and I’m so thrilled with how many of you are participating! Thank you all for joining us.
In fact, Memoir Monday has grown so much that I won’t be able to comment on everyone’s posts anymore (and get my own work done) but I’ll still be reading as many as possible, supporting your posts with reblogs, votes, and sharing on my external social media accounts (X, Facebook, etc.). Please don't forget to use #memoirmonday as your main post tag so your post is as visible as possible.
For all of those who’ve regularly participated in Memoir Monday - keep going, you’re making great progress in crafting your very own life story for future generations to enjoy.
For those who missed the inaugural post explaining what the Memoir Monday initiative is all about you can find it here.
Now for next week’s Memoir Monday prompt:
What's your favorite way to travel and your most memorable trip?
My answer:
I always dreamed of traveling but didn’t take my first overseas trip until I was forty-five in 2016. The first trip was to Amsterdam and it changed me on a deep level.
Nothing shifts your perspective and worldview as completely as experiencing other cultures. I can always tell how much a person has traveled by how open minded they are.
From 2016 to 2020 I traveled quite a bit - London, Portugal, Ireland, St. Thomas, Montreal, and Amsterdam for a second time. The pandemic years brought that streak to a temporary end but we resumed again in the autumn of 2023 when we went to Ireland. Next, I’d love to see Japan and other parts of Asia. There’s no greater satisfaction or emotional high than experiencing a new destination for the first time.
Over the years I’ve learned it’s best to have a plan, more like a loose framework of things you want to do and see, for each destination but to leave plenty of room for flexibility and spontaneity. For example, we like to plan one or two things for each day but be willing to enjoy those unplanned experiences in the moment, as we discover them. I guarantee the memories you’ll talk about for the rest of your lives will spring out of situations that weren’t planned or, sometimes, not even anticipated.
Spending less than three full days in a city won’t allow you to enjoy the deeply satisfying feeling of getting to know the soul of a foreign place and its people. Five days in a city is even more ideal, ten days is better still. Time passes at an incredibly fast clip when you’re traveling, especially once you make it beyond the halfway point of your trip. Sometimes it seems like you spend months planning and relishing the anticipation of a trip but before you know it the trip is over and you’re already boarding the plane home.
"I'm a big believer in winging it. I'm a big believer that you're never going to find perfect city travel experience or the perfect meal without a constant willingness to experience a bad one. Letting the happy accident happen is what a lot of vacation itineraries miss, I think, and I'm always trying to push people to allow those things to happen rather than stick to some rigid itinerary." - Anthony Bourdain
If traveling to Europe or Asia from North America I’ve learned it’s best to plan on being there for twenty or thirty days if you can. Transcontinental flights have become outrageously expensive and you can get a lot more experiences for your buck if you plan longer trips versus separate trips that require paying for two or three transatlantic/pacific flights.
For example, if you want to see England, plan for a longer trip and visit Ireland and France as well. It will be a much better value than seeing those three countries on different trips over the course of several years. This is a mistake I’ve made in the past and I see many others make.
I think another mistake most people make is having the mindset of, “I may never make it back here so I need to see everything I can.” They sightsee at a breakneck pace checking as many things off their list as they can and enjoy very little of it. In the process they skim the surface of what a destination has to offer but miss out on the really good experiences. The life-altering moments that create lasting memories are almost always off the beaten path and aren’t always found in travel guides. Some of my best memories have been just ordinary things like sitting in some cafe outside, enjoying a meal and a glass of wine, and watching life unfold all around me.
What is my most memorable trip? All of them.
It’s difficult to pick a “most memorable trip” because I have memorable moments from all my trips. I’ll never forget my first time in London in 2019. My wife and I landed in Heathrow, strung out from not sleeping a wink on the flight over the Atlantic.
We took an Uber from the airport to where we were staying in Covent Garden and just as we were driving past Buckingham Palace we stumbled across a procession of the Royal Guard. What a great first impression of the city!
The Uber dropped us off at our Airbnb, we schlepped our luggage up the impossibly steep staircase of our Victorian era flat and immediately collapsed for a short nap. I woke up before Raymi and went on a walkabout in that incredible city, all alone. London felt so oddly and unexplainably familiar. Maybe it was genetic memory because it’s where some of my ancestors originated from.
Then there was the time in 2023 when my brother and I rented bikes in Montreal and ended up cycling over twenty miles over the St. Lawrence River and explored a completely new part of Montreal.
Or when my friend Juan and I decided, on a whim, to try zip lining for the first time in Montreal. While in Montreal another year we decided to take a random art class we found on Airbnb.
My wife and I walked miles across the city of Lisbon one evening to find an Italian restaurant that served the most incredible pizza.
The two of us decided to walk off the pizza and strolled back, to our hotel in central Lisbon. As twilight turned to dark, we walked through all kinds of quaint little neighborhoods where people were just busy enjoying their lives.
In 2019 we stayed in a brownstone right off one of the main canals in central Amsterdam for ten days.
We found a grocery store within walking distance and would get essentials every few days. We got to know our way around the city and developed a daily routine. It began to feel like we actually lived there.
In 2023 my wife, son and I were touring Blarney Castle in Ireland and after a long day on our feet we were chilled and starved. We walked to an old hotel/restaurant in a little town adjacent to the castle and I had one of the best meals of my life.
What a blessing, we're so incredibly lucky to be able to do this. I’m grateful to have made lots of memories like this from our trips. These memories are worth more than any material thing could ever hope to be. It's moments like these that make for a truly rich life. In my opinion, if done mindfully, there are few things in this world as educational, fulfilling, and meaningful as travel. I hope to have the good fortune of doing much more of it before I leave this Earth. Life is very much like a trip after all, it speeds up tremendously after the halfway point.
Rules of Engagement
- Please reblog this first post and share on other social platforms so we cast the widest net possible for this initiative;
- Pictures paint a thousand words. Include pictures in your posts if you have them;
- Answer each Memoir Monday prompt question in your own post. If possible, the prompt question will be published in the week prior so you'll have the entire week to answer and publish your own post;
- Have fun with it, don't worry about getting behind, or jumping into the project at any point after we've begun; and
- Lastly, be sure to include the tag #memoirmonday.
It's that simple.
At the end of the next twelve months we'll have created something immensely valuable together. It's so important to know our "whys" in life and there's no better way to do that than this.
Someday all that will be left of our existence are memories of us, our deeds, and words. It's up to you to leave as rich of a heritage as possible for future generations to learn from. So, go ahead, tell your stories. I can't wait to read them.
Be well and make the most of this day. I want to sincerely thank all of the participants thus far. I've really enjoyed reading your posts!
You've been blessed to have traveled to so many destinations, time to explore Africa?
I agree with you, although I've mostly traveled to various parts of South Africa, and then the Netherlands last year, it is difficult to pick a favourite. Funny how I felt at home in the Netherlands, there's a definite connection there, but that's where most of my ancestors come from.
Oh dear, you are so right, time speeds up way too fast, the older we get!
PS I never got around to last week's difficult topic, but may still do a late one, it was a very trying week, but it ended on a wonderful note!
I look back and am amazed by how many places we visited between 2016 and 2019. Africa is definitely on my list. I could tell you really connected with the Netherlands. Do you think you might ever consider moving there? We were ready to after just a few days there in 2016. There was so much chaos and turmoil going on back then with the election. I'm glad the week ended well! It doesn't matter if you're late with the topic, the rules of this initiative are very loose. Take care Lizelle and enjoy your week!
One of the places you should visit if you travel to Africa, is the Victoria Falls in Zimbabwe, still on my bucket list. Everyone who's been there is amazed. Game reserves a definite, the Western Cape and the Drakensberg...and...and...and...the list goes on!
I'm not so sure about moving to the Netherlands permanently, my roots are too deeply planted on African soil.
Enjoy the rest of your week as well Eric!
Cool! I just found out about this prompt and had just written a post about our recent cruise to the ABC islands. Thanks for putting together a fun way to travel the world while sitting at the computer!
Awesome! Thanks for joining Memoir Monday!
Travelling is one of the most beautiful experience where you get to learn more. And if its with family, niot to say, they are the best moments where you get to know eachother better. Its nice to hear about your travel to different place. Meeting different people, eating variety foods and learning different culture are all part of exploring the best in ourselves.
How are you dear friend @ericvancewalton good morning
I love this week's slogan, it will be very emotional to remember the trips again. Yours have been incredible, and since I've been in #hive I've read most of them that you've shared with us.
Thank you very much for letting us know about your travel adventures.
Have a beautiful Sunday
It was a great weekend. I got out on my first real bike ride of the year. I hope your weekend was good as well. I can't wait to read your entry this week. I wish you a wonderful week my friend!
It's definitely hard to pinpoint one trip that would be my absolute favorite. If I am going back to when I was a kid I would probably have to say going to New England was quite memorable. Now that I am married, most any trip with my wife is probably my favorite. I don't know about my favorite mode of travel. Flying is definitely low on the list. I would probably have to be driving because trains and buses aren't always the greatest in the US!
New England is amazing. I'm hearing Amtrak is getting a major upgrade in the US! Can't wait to see how that develops. I'd like to take the train through the Canadian Rockies too, I've heard a lot of people say how much they enjoyed that trip.
Yeah, that train trip does sound cool. I have seen ads for that. One of those cruises on the smaller ships up the New England coast would be cool too. On another subject, I was thinking about the full self driving thing today after a discussion came up about people not stopping for school buses anymore. Do Teslas know to stop for the flashing red lights of a bus?
There are so many options now! Even Viking cruise line is doing a MS River cruise from here to New Orleans. Oh yes, FSD absolutely does recognize the school buses and knows when to stay stopped (as kids are boarding or getting out). It did a few very impressive things during my drives. Once it started slowing down and I was ready to disengage figuring it was an error and low and behold there was someone trying to get out of a parallel parking spot on my side of the street about a half block ahead. There's no way I could have noticed it that far ahead but car caught it. Another time a father with a baby carriage was waiting on a sidewalk to cross at a crosswalk in an intersection with no lights or stop signs. Somehow the car knew to stop and let them cross. I was impressed by that.
Wow, that is pretty impressive. I had been looking online and it appeared that in the past the system struggled with that sort of thing. They must have fixed it.
That would be cool to take a trip down the Mississippi.
Yeah, it's pretty well honed now from what I understand. They're doing away with the "steering wheel nag" with the next FSD update so Tesla must be fairly comfortable with the safety of it. It's going to take a lot of work to get full autonomy approved in the US though. I think we'll see it in places like China long before it's approved here. It would be cool to do a trip like that. I've never felt drawn to New Orleans but would be willing to check it out as long is it wasn't around Mardi Gras time.
I was wrong about school buses! I just did a little searching and a lot of people say FSD still struggles with that, very odd!
I agree with you, I've never had much desire to visit Mardi Gras. From what I have heard it's just dirty and crowded and loud. Maybe when I was younger... :)
I don't prefer sea and beach vacation if I go abroad. Rather, I prefer deeply exploring the city I visit. My dream to have vacatiob in South America in 10 years.
That's great. I hope you can make that happen! I've never been further south than Mexico.
And you also once overdosed on marijuana. hahahaha. I think I think the same as you; every trip has been an incredible experience. I can't wait to get back to my annual travel routine. That will do me a world of good. Just like it will do me good to do my share. Thanks for this initiative, my friend. I have found therapy with these posts. Greetings and hugs
I'll never forget that experience! My brother and I still laugh about that. I hope you get to start traveling soon too. I'm grounded at the moment as well. We hope to get back to traveling by this fall. I'm glad you're liking Memoir Monday. I sure have enjoyed it. Not that I'm wishing time away but after a year I think we'll look back and be amazed at what we've created. Have a wonderful weekend Nancy!
Likewise, Eric. Hugs
This is so true! Isn't only applicable to journeys, but to everyday life in my opinion as well.
The best parties, the most awesome views, the greatest people I have met, most valuable lessons, etc were all the result of some unplanned/unexpected events.
Definitely a great article with some awesome insights!
I agree, leaving room for and being open to those unplanned moments are always a good thing. Thank you!
Why not? We carry around so much trauma our ancestors bestowed upon us that it would be nice if they also left us something nice, like the memory of the places where they lived and raised their families.
Speaking of London it's hard not to feel it in your soul. I don't know if I have any English blood, but London feels like home. On the other hand, I do know that part of my ancestors came from the Czech Republic, yet when we visited Prague I didn't feel a thing. Beautiful city, but it didn't speak to me. There's also the question of my Croatian ancestry, but I haven't been there yet... which is why Hivefest in Split sounds tempting, although it might not allow me time to search for my roots. Still, worth considering.
I believe we get the good and the bad from our ancestors. There was something about even London's gloomy weather that brought me a strange sort of comfort, maybe more like familiarity. We don't have anywhere near as many cloudy days in our part of the US but there was something about the gray and the mist there that drew me in and made me more introspective. It makes you want to find a nice cozy pub or have a cup of warm tea. I see why so many good writers came from that country. I've only been to a handful of other cities that resonated with me as much as London.
HiveFest does sound intriguing this year! I'm going to try my best to make it this time. If I am able to attend I'll probably make it part of a longer trip. I've been hearing a lot about Istanbul and may drop in and see what all the fuss is about. : )
My most memorable trip was when I made my spiritual journey to Saudi Arabia, namely to the city of Mecca. You are the luckiest man to have made some memorable trips to several countries. The photos you show are also very beautiful and lively so they make me feel as if I were there. You have opened my horizons about beautiful countries that are worth visiting through your writing. Thanks, Eric. God bless you and your family.
That would have been incredible! I want to see that part of the world. A lot of Americans are venturing over to places like Dubai and Abu Dhabi, even buying properties. I'm glad you're enjoying these posts! I hope you join in the initiative. Thank you Eliana, God bless you and your family as well!
It is fun to travel many roads on a bicycle and see different sights and events. I enjoy it
Cycling is an amazing way to travel! It's one of my favorite things.
Due to the vast stories experience I have heard about people capsizing using the water means of travelling, I have been used to road traveling and till today I still see it as a great fun
It is a special topic, people's entries will be interesting, it will be good to read and you will get to learn a lot
#hive #posh
https://ecency.com/hive-124452/@christybliss/getting-to-the-family-i
My entry;
https://ecency.com/hive-126152/@edith-4angelseu/a-road-trip-endless-opportunities
My entry,
https://ecency.com/hive-190931/@jemima2001/flights-and-heights-an-enjoyable
My submission;
https://ecency.com/hive-133311/@tranquil3/a-holiday-to-remember
This is my link on the topic,
What are some of your all time favourite restaurants? Memoir Monday.
https://ecency.com/hive-106316/@ijebest/what-are-some-of-your