Hello, Steemians!
In our overwhelmingly crowded and mediocre society, it has grown to become a tendency of young people to seek the approval of other people and meet their standards, going so far as to compare their capabilities and achievements to them, thus falling into a crisis of depression and self-hatred.
Comparing the flow of your life with those that are around you and measuring your achievements with their success is as absurd as it is foolish. Every creature in this existence is unique. Humans more so, for they have thought and free will to choose their path and make decisions in every step.
‘You become as you think’ is a famous expression of the power of thought and free will. It is reasonable and efficient to understand the boundaries of society and try to find your place in it, but these boundaries are thoughts expressed by other human beings, out of their own free will, and are no indication of universal truths.
You can go through the trial and find harmony with the society that you live in, but do not lose your independence in the process of fitting in.
Have the courage to be as creative as you can possibly get, and do not be afraid of going for the horizons that others have been too afraid to even approach. Your originality will be the deciding factor of your true identity in society, and not the identity that you borrow from other people in search of something that is in vain.
As people are all unique, so is the world around them and the opportunities that life has in store for them. How could you possibly compare yourself to someone who may be more successful than you without knowing the circumstances that he has been put in?
What about the opportunities? What about the trials and the errors?
Life does not treat everyone equally, but at the end of the day, it is up for you to decide what you want to do and who you want to become. This decision should be irrelevant to the people around you, for you are your own person, and you are living a unique life.
That uniqueness is your greatest gift.
Do not live out the rest of your days feeling like you should be like everybody else, or a particular person that you admire.
Make your own opportunities. Make your own decisions. Make your own identity. You are not a slave of this mediocre society, for you can rise above everyone else and become something entirely new.
This is the ultimate freedom. Freedom from expectations. Freedom from selfishness. Freedom from ego. Freedom from envy. Freedom from greed. It is only when you stop looking at yourself as a reflection of the successful people you know that you can find true success and achievement and light at the end of the road.
We are not the same, not even in the slightest. Your personality is your own, as is your success.
From now on, see your life as a unique opportunity that only YOU can experience.
A BIG HUG!
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Thanks All of You!!!!
Thank you so much sir for this awesome bloog. This is very useful to me because me too a person who compare myself with other person. I know this is wrong ever person have their specific qualities but sometimes I think I'm a looser. I lost so many things in my life. After reading this blog I got a lesson. What ever you write in this blog Im going to us it in my personal life. So I can improve myself and do something better to achieve something best in my life.
Thanks once again
@ajks
@ajks... I already embrace the wonderful chats @chbartist shares with us here. They are making a difference in my life, may you find a similar experience... I wish you well upon your journey. Hugs
Thanks for your comment I'm trying to point out things @borrowedearth
Great read, @chbartist. To know what a bad idea it is to compare yourself to others, think of lottery winners. Somebody bought a $1 lottery ticket and now have $400,000,000. Their situation as compared to you is irrelevant. One way to avoid this trap is to get rid of your toxic friends. You know who they are. When you express a desire to try something new and exciting, they are the first ones to announce you will fail. They make fun of your attempts and if you do succeed, they claim it was their idea and they should be getting the credit for your success. Come up with a one year and a five year plan. As things evolve, do not be afraid to reevaluate and modify or completely change your goals. I am a trial lawyer so I am around very wealthy people on a regular basis. Many of them live in complete misery due to all kinds of self-inflicted disappointment. They spend all day worrying that someone is going to get their money. The wealth did not liberate them, it trapped them. My best advice is find your passion and go after it, whatever it is that brings you joy and fulfillment. Hey, @chbartist, I would love to be on your list. Thanks!
Thank you for your words and I included you. See the list. Welcome
This write-up is an eye opener to me, I have been a victim of comparison, having gone through school and observing my peers makes me look like i am not doing anything with my life, but like you said, They have circumstances, opportunities and trials i may not be away of.
They all have their unique background and i have mine.
Regards
we are who we are, for lifetime there only us with our body and no other else. other people is only reference for our life attitude .
You are unique with your own self identity
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I am Really enjoying the motivational posts and reminders. I like the daily positive messages and the overall mindset that you put out there. I'd like to be a part of the Community that you talk about at the end of each of your posts. I dont think I'll be able to read and vote for every single post but I should be able to comment at least once per day. Let me know :)
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God created each one of us, original, unique, each person is very different from another, even the twins ... therefore each person has his own virtues, then ... why compare himself with others and hope to achieve what others achieve, when you can have your own triumphs and achievements ... the secret is to learn to know your own gifts, your strong and positive sides and to recognize them, learn to exploit them and in this way, you will see that your triumphs are exclusively yours.
Hi @chbartist!
Truly said. It is really absurd. Comparing one to others creates inferiority or superiority complex within us. These complexes do not let us advance. It is good that we compare ourselves to our past version. Then we can we can update ourselves. We can grow. Comparing ourselves to others is of no good.
As you said, we must understand and recognise our uniqueness. We are unique and this vision makes everyone respected including ourselves.
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I think that comparing yourself with another person is insulting yourself. I completely believe in this. Everybody have their own dreams, own goals, own type of desires and then how can one compare himself with another. Precisely there should be no comparison at all and should work according to own choice. Thanks for the post @chbartist
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@chbartist I shine my deepest gratitude in your direction. You and your post topics have entered my reality at a time when I needed to hear them. They echo in my thoughts days and even weeks beyond my initial reading of them. I have gone back and reread many of them more than once.
I am launching my return to Steemit by the new year and feel that your posts and their influence will most definitely come up in my writings.
I am one who enjoys giving credit when due. How are you comfortable receiving these references. Reply here or I am happy to further this chat and perhaps take a chance of making a new friend by chatting on discord, same name there.
Hugs
This is more difficult these days as society continues to push consumerism in our daily lives which have led to focus on materialistic views of each other. This is a path that is unhealthy for ourselves and our families.
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It couldn't have been said any better, nice article @chbartist.
Unhealthy comparison of oneself with others is just simply death from within. The changes should start from ours school that sets general exams for everyone without taking into cognizance our respective strength and weakness hence instilling in us a sense of unhealthy competition for the rest of our lives.
Special thanks to @crypto.piotr and I wish to be included on your list!
There is a very cool post. You are right that now we have to make our own identity in the society. And we have to stop comparing ourselves to others. From which we could feel ourselves independent. And to be able to make that which we want to be ourselves.
Thank you
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Very good friend @chbartist
If the desire is for themselves, then why do we keep it in our mind that we have to become like them. If the dreams are yours, the happiness is yours, the place is your choice, then why become like someone else
Thank you
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Thank you for sharing.Sir, you have said very right now that we have to stop comparing ourselves with others and we have to make that line so that we can help others and make a different identity in society.
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You reminds me about one of my friends. She gave me an example few months before, how successful one of her room mate is, and how miserable she is.
I replied her her, as her room mate lost her father in her childhood, so she had to go through many things and maybe that made her strong. And what is she now is the reflection of her hard work and a gift from life.
I asked if she could choose to loose her father to get success in return. And her answer was, as you can guess, a big NO.
I think this is how life works.
We have to stop compare ourselves with others, whether it is wealth, beauty or any other things. This was one of my dad's life lesson for me.
Thanks for your sharing.
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People begins to be compared with other from childhood and adolescence, at this stage even more yet. This is because it is a form of learning natural living together and be accepted in society, or to compete healthy in a sport or discipline. However, we must learn to overcome this habit to the extent progresses our age and strengthen our self-esteem.
Compare outrageously is sick for our personality and we subtraction confidence in ourselves.
Great post @chbartist
Best regards
Dear @chbartist sir
We must be content in the way God has sent us. It is stupid to compare to another. We should try to give our best to whatever resources we have. Our good deeds and practices make us the best. God has given us equally physical form and intelligence. How we use our intelligence depends on us. If other people are standing in the category of superior people and we are behind, then we are not doing the right use of our knowledge and wisdom.The success of the other seems easy but this person can know how much sacrifice has to be done behind that success which is the precious time of his life spent in achieving his goal.
Regards
Informative post🤔,really think if you continue with this ridiculous attitude of comparing yourself to others you end up hurting your self esteem and become less productive.
I believe it is the fear of not being accepted by society that can cause people to conform and restrain their creativity. A strong self-esteem, and a focus on your goals or dreams should help prevent the comparison of oneself to others, or one's own possessions with other people's possessions. On the bright side, comparing oneself to others to help improve someone's life or the lives of others is a good thing. This is would be an unselfish and positive form of comparison.
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In life you have to think big to be able to become a great person, work for your dreams and achieve your goals without envying the success of others. People who seek to identify with others and who need to imitate others to be accepted, are destined to fail in any activity, stage or place of life. Of course, you have to take advantage of the opportunities that life offers you and make the most of them, always trying to do things correctly and have God in our hearts. Your writing is very motivating, thanks for sharing. A hug and may God bless you greatly.
That's true!
Only you can create your own opportunities to succeed in your life without having to compare yourself with another person or feeling bad because you're not like him.
And the only way to do it's to be creative and original, learning from your mistakes and knowing how to improve your skills, opening many unique opportunities that only you can get
this is amazing, at the same time it is really difficult to understand us or others, The comparing mind in some ways can be seen as our friend. Our ability to find patterns, to understand why some things are like others, and others are not alike at all, is an important quality of our intelligence. When we use that same gift to essentially compare ourselves to others, however, it often leads to discouragement and defeat. The comparing mind becomes our doubter..... it convinces us we’ll never be as good as others...So why go through the agony of trying to change?
We are what we are and nobody can change us, just ourselves...
If everyone in this beautiful world think alike, then it would be a boring world and nobody would learn nothing from the other people to be successful...
You´re completely right @chbartist in The Absurdity of Comparing Yourself to Other People.....!!!!
I believe it is the fear of not being accepted by society that can cause people to conform and restrain their creativity. A strong self-esteem, and a focus on your goals or dreams should help prevent the comparison of oneself to others, or one's own possessions with other people's possessions. On the bright side, comparing oneself to others to help improve someone's life or the lives of others is a good thing. This is would be an unselfish and positive form of comparison.
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Really appreciate your writing on this topic :) @chbartist Yes I think for too long now every society in the world is just so unhappy with their sucesses simply because they've compared it with others. I was like that once, comparing stuff I had and wins I made. But then I realised it gets exhausting trying to just be one notch higher than the rest. And it's a lose-lose situation in the end, not just for me but for everyone.
So I told myself that my definition of success is how happy or joyful I am when I'm doing something or being with someone. Everything else is really just secondary.
Thank you again for sharing such powerful article :)
People begins to be compared with other from childhood and adolescence, at this stage even more yet. This is because it is a form of learning natural living together and be accepted in society, or to compete healthy in a sport or discipline. However, we must learn to overcome this habit to the extent progresses our age and strengthen our self-esteem.
If you compare with others so obsessive, is sick for our personality and we subtraction confidence in ourselves.
Great post @chbartist
Best regards
Hi chbartist! I'm a great fan of your writing, i just go through on your every post, sometimes comment on your post. Please don't mind, our ideology should like that you say, we should not compare our-self with others, but i have a confusion about this matter, comparing with other it's human being natural character, if we don't compare our-self with other who will we can realized about our position in society!! As a human being we have to independent on our decision making but which will be the parameter of our decision making, isn't it comparison.
Thank you.
Don't make yourself a photocopy of another's personality. Each and every one of us has a unique talent, ability, and spiritual gift. We have been given these spiritual gifts and talents to serve our own lives' purposes. Everyone can shine in its own field of specialization.
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@chbartist, If we understand our creation then we will not going to compare ourselves, we are not related to anyone in anyways because every individual is unique in their own ways and it's really an vital aspect to know. But today's social networking world gifted one negative aspect and that is pursuing others life and comparing to owns life and if they found that they are not like that then they loose meaning and value from themselves which is not good at all. So, we are individual and we have to do what is best for us, we should not seek approval and essence of comparison in our life path. Stay blessed. 🙂
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Thank you
Yes! just like you rightly said, comparing yourself with other people is very bad because doing such won't let you appreciate yourself. A big thanks @chbartist for this great post.👍
@chbartist you are songwriter and guitarist. I am sure that your song and tune will be from the bottom of heart. You have a great mind. You are a good motivator also. Motivation like a energy capsule for all and you are doing well. @ankitjnv
You reminds me about one of my friends. She gave me an example few months before, how successful one of her room mate is, and how miserable she is.
I replied her her, as her room mate lost her father in her childhood, so she had to go through many things and maybe that made her strong. And what is she now is the reflection of her hard work and a gift from life.
I asked if she could choose to loose her father to get success in return. And her answer was, as you can guess, a big NO.
I think this is how life works.
We have to stop compare ourselves with others, whether it is wealth, beauty or any other things. This was one of my dad's life lesson for me.
Thanks for your sharing.
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This write-up is an eye opener to me, I have been a victim of comparison, having gone through school and observing my peers makes me look like i am not doing anything with my life, but like you said, They have circumstances, opportunities and trials i may not be away of.
They all have their unique background and i have mine.
The school grading system instil this mindset of comparison in us. I hope that one day we will develop a school curriculum that will judge a fish by its ability to swim and not its ability to fly.
Regards
but what if I am better than you ??
I mean, c'mon !!
It's a struggle against conformity and mediocrity until you realise the truth...
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Yes, completely in agreement, the beauty is in the diversity that we are, we never have to compare, each one is different
I think all of us must be themself and it is the best way to live our own life and try to do all to make our life better for all of us and at first part for our relativies, friends and couleagues!
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Hey @chbartist, Greetings.
I enjoy and learn lots from your writings, also get inspired and I am thankful to you.
We make mistakes by comparing others or comparing others with ourselves, this is a waste of the intelligence that human is gifted with.
We all have own unique possibility of existence and creativity, might not all but there exists something that is completely unique than others, We should figure out our internal potential, strength that we are unknown of.
There is some positive aspect of comparing ourselves but has huge negative aspects. like if we compare it will give us somehow certain motivation to be the best among those but what we will do after comparing is not from our heart, spirit or these doings are not a passion. If we don't follow our passion then we wont have an enjoyable journey for sure, so before doing any thing or deciding it, we should compare those fellings with our passion or what we love the most.
I got to learn something new from you and that's the most important inspiration and gratefulness from you. I really get inspired by your positive attitude and a movement to create a community of positive thinkers and doer's which is the real need of this time. I would love to be in this community and learn lots of good thing from you guys. Thank you !!
Everyone is unique. Once we start comparing , we try to be like others , diminishing the uniqueness we have.
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Comparisonitis! It can become insidious and damaging to oneself and relationships. That's not to say people shouldn't have role models for emulation, though.
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