Today, the text is devoted to the biggest mistake made by almost everyone who decided to pursue their goals.
Everybody's on it. I ran into her. Once again. Got so drunk that everything hurts inside.
The key problem is that you set 5-10-15 goals and try to achieve all the goals every day. Or at least do something for each goal every day.
This is fundamentally wrong.
As a result, achieving the goal becomes a suicide in the amount of overload experienced by your body and your psyche
"Trick: the regularity is more important than strength!»
A cock in the gym
Consider the beginner who started going to the gym. Surprisingly, fitness centers are a seasonal business. They experience three waves a year. People make the decision to buy the cards begin to walk. On first training they are laid out in full. Even more, than on full. Not enough for them. Motivation flows from the ears.
During the first weeks, they remain highly motivated. They are lit by the first results. Muscle pain. They are 30 minutes go to the mirror and look at how reduced their belly and grew stronger biceps. Well, at least that's what I do.
High motivation fuse gives the result. Indeed, the first results come easily. But this frantic super-motivation can't go on forever. In the end, after about three weeks. Someone is two months, suddenly lost very fast results. Goes the fuse.
Once, when I was in school, my great and beloved friend Anton decided to start Jogging in the morning. More precisely, he ran it for several years, and I decided to join him. Ran from the children's world to the Nikolaev Park. When we ran into the Park, I ran a few more laps. Then I felt like I could do more, and I started doing push-UPS. Then I started to pull myself up. In the end, I gave it up just to zero. And proud of it. Proud that I gave it my best shot. There was only one. The next morning, the guys ran, and I didn't.
The phenomenon of regularity
Regularity is more important than strength. Do not strive to kill yourself heroically every day. Any coach knows that the winner is not the one who came with the best data or who heroically kills himself in the hall, but the one who will work regularly.
The same pattern and goals. Regularity is more important than strength. Many of you get down to business, taking on a load that can not pull. Including me. In "Coaching" to the end reach 60% of those who started.
"The problem is that you overload yourself with too many tasks."
You can't take steps on all 10-15 goals a day. And that makes you feel like an asshole, don't try hard enough. Because of this, you live with a constant sense of guilt towards yourself. I'm not. I'm wrong. I have no willpower.
Friends, I'm the first one with no willpower. The secret is not in it.
The situation is shown when you enter the diary.
You understand that you are "in borscht", and decide to keep a diary. Schedule tasks for the day. As a result, you sit down and write out 20 tasks that you need to do today. Inside you know that it is impossible to do these tasks.
That's how interesting. You put, the tasks that are unrealistic to perform, during the day they do not perform, feel bad because of this all day, because you "do not hold the bar." At the end of the day, summarize what you did not do what you planned. Tasks are carried forward to the next day. And tomorrow it's 30. So gradually builds up whom. One day the tension becomes so high that you just "forget" to keep a diary. In the end, go back to where you started.
Never mind. In two months, you'll make another attempt. Drop everything, too.
How to avoid it.
Technique 1-1-1
Agree that if you did one task per day. But did would its, then you would have been moving very quickly. If you also closed one task a week, you would just fly.
One task rule.
Let's make one simple rule for you. Do one task. If you have done one task. Or some step on one task-you already well done.
Did one task a day – you're done.
One task per day is your daily rate. You did well. You're good. Pat yourself on the back. The rest of the day, you can walk around and know you're okay. And it really is.
You're already feeling good. In this mood, you can take steps on other goals. But know that this is overfilling. This is your excess.
Task
Every day write about the main task of the day. And write those insights and conclusions, which you have made from carry this task. Your task-the task of the researcher. Watch your States, that you pleased, that there is no. What thoughts come to you in the process of fulfilling the goals.
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