Definitely agree with you here on so many levels! I've already been a victim of going with the flow and not pausing to think about the consequences. Boy, was it a wreck.
Everyone has to realize that planning is crucial. We shouldn't just dive head-on towards something just because we want to. Reason still has to be there to guide our emotions. It all sounds very simple, but is actually very hard in practice.
I'm glad you got to help your friend realize this and am hoping the best for her. :) Cheers!