I believe we are electrical beings. Negative and positive forces do not attract. We attract what we are.
If we are positive and loving, we attract people of similar qualities. This is where the phrase "misery loves company" comes from too since the opposite is true.
I am not sure about the Secret as it is explained. The women you were trying to charm may have simply been impressed by your confidence for example.
Simply thinking about success is not enough in other words. We have to put effort into developing skills, and then those skills are used to acheive things the market finds valuable.
They were impressed by my confidence, and that's kinda the point. Believing in yourself leads to other people believing in you, and that lines up with the idea that your beliefs create your reality. If you take it as an isolated phenomenon, it might not convince you that the underlying principle is there... but there are so many examples, the health and the confidence with women things are just a sample.
I went into it in a little more detail in this video: https://steemit.com/video/@paradise-paradox/don-t-waste-your-wonder-video-audio
Thanks for your comment Mr. @finnian