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Couple of times you have met personalities of interest. A great conversation is stirred up and it felt like forever.
But suddenly, in a flash everything goes sore. That awkward moment peaks it's ugly head like —Nothing Ever Happened
Mehn! That sucks
¤Let's Face It¤
These might have happened
YOU GOT TOO PERSONAL :-
Could be you threw questions that left your partner twitching his/her toes because they find that line of conversation intruding. So your partner can't wait to say "have a nice day!" and be all gone and lost. So buddy try to avoid those questions that dive into religion or beliefs, wait till you two get comfortable with each other and can hit it from one angle and turnover to another angle.PUTTING PRESSURE ON THE CONVERSATION :-
I know, yes I definitely know how it feels meeting someone special. You obviously want to make the first time right and without blemish
But Hey! Slow down—don't try too hard, don't do it
You might just be trying too much while putting your opportunity to meet this person again in a shitty hole.WAIT! DID YOU TRY TO GET FLIRTY? :-
Romanticizing on a chanced meet-up isn't a pretty good idea, you'd be sending a wrong signal. Am not saying the time to time straight look in the eyeballs or the handshake that lasted a little longer is wrong
All am saying is πBe DecentπYOU PROBABLY OPENED UP TOO MUCH :-
Xraying yourself to your partner on the first day ( it's a big NO)
If you happen to spill out virtually everything about yourself in a go, question is —what are you going to discuss about subsequently. You probably are going to leave your partner with stale overrepeated lines, nothing revealing anymore, nothing shocking (boring)
The punch line is —One Step At a Time.YOU BLABBED A GREAT DEAL ABOUT YOURSELF :-
Over the years, I have met with some set of beings that go all full of themselves and didn't think I deserve a chance to speak or air my views, I just thought of them as inconsiderate,self-focused...add 'em up. You don't want to be that kind of person,do you?TRIED TOO MUCH TO IMPRESS :-
Laughing Inappropriately and being too nice could tag you as #fake
Just be you!DIRECTLY ATTACKING THE OTHER PERSON'S VIEW/OPINION :-
Many people are guilty of this point. Picking picking picking and picking on just about everything.
If you strongly are against an opinion, Atleast be diplomatic in expressing your thoughts.
¤Let's Fix You Buddy¤
DON'T KILL TO TALK :-
You don't need to try too hard to connect. Just start with things around like the event you're attending together,the present weather condition and so on and take-off. Should flow from there. Instead of jumping first to the fire before landing into the pan.DON'T ASK TOO MUCH DIRECT QUESTIONS :-
Doing this will make the conversation seem like an interview session and will definitely take the fizzle out trust me!!PUT YOUR ANXIETY UNDER CONTROL :-
Very important! Let your physical countenance be cool, if you feel tensed take a deep breath and relax with a smile, should do else you would get your mind racing and then it goes blank.SHOW INTEREST AND LISTEN EMPHATICALLY :-
Give your partner that atmosphere to want to say more, contribute and give your sincere thoughts yeah ..you might just be taking a log off a chest.BEING A LITTLE SARCASTIC WON'T BITE :-
Yeah! It won't bite so don't push that of you away at that moment, it's one way to put up an effortless conversation. Loosen up and get a rib cracked.THRIVE TO BE MEMORABLE :-Be sure to leave an impression that will last. compliment genuinely, allow yourself to new ideas, don't be scared to go deep too, honesty and politeness should hover around you and your partner will be itching for another linkup.
PICK UP ON A SHARED INTEREST :-
Finding out that you and your partner share on some kind of interest is a good booster, leaves you with much to say and recount on for as long as it last.
So ignite the spark and keep the conversation coming
Am still @sikan-eyen Do have a great time.
Dating is fun and relationships are meaningful. The connection between two people as they get to know each other through conversations. :)
I've written a 3-part guide on dating, but only for the introverted guy (because I am one). Let me know what you think.
https://steemit.com/howto/@maverickfoo/53-dating-tips-for-the-introverted-dude-part-3-of-3
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