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Some few years ago , I have been existing in this world, I run the same routine everyday thinking that is the best I could do. I have always live my life on certain rules, I was set on boundaries, though many would say they experience it when they were young because our parents are all into our life making decisions bcos we do not understand the world yet but in my own case, I am not more a kid or teenager,I was an adult,20+. My sister would never stop to give me rules to follow,plan my life for me.
The age difference between I and my sis is a bit much, so she sees me like a very small girl compared to her and became over protective of me. I abide by her rules no matter the situation, she became so obsessed that even when I was working, her words stands more than that of my boss, I would rather leave that job than go against her words or rules .
I have a classmate that was going through this with her mom also when she got to 200level in university her mom engaged her with one of her pastor son,she was not ready to be engaged but her mom wouldn't agree claiming the guy is Godly And have a good character that she should engage him so that another girl won't replace her. That was how she was tied down with the engagement, she doesn't have chance to date any other person. After her four years course, she served and they married legally . Since she got married,she has been off social media, within a month she might just come online and only once , whenever I call her she said they are fine.
On this fateful day, her younger sister posted her went to visit her big sis. Looking at the picture with a surprised face, her beauty has fade away, I was so disappointed. "So, this is what your mom wants from you" I speak in my mind. He mom was just looking about how responsible ,God fearing and well mannered he is but he is not financially capable .
That day ,that picture,change my life . I decided it's high time I do not just exist in this world but start living. I imagining my sister forcing me into a marriage, someone I do not want. I decided to do things before telling her form that day, it was not easy though because it has always been a fight and quarrel every day.
Nevertheless, I'm glad I am now living , doing what I want and she started to relieve me of some hindrance. There is nothing more good than living,the best life is living and not existing now I think for myself,set my goals and I work towards it.