Thanks @heart-to-heart. I appreciate your frankness. One of my daughters is like you. She is a very kind, sensitive soul and just can't bear some of the darkness of life. Ironically she has taught school in all-black schools in Minneapolis for 7 years and saw some very dark and troubling things. "Leland" has worked through most of this stuff with me as well as his younger brother. But the anger within is still there and remains a challenge. He'd rather ignore it but one day, he will have to confront it. I hope that day does not come through his own violence toward another. He has purposefully avoided marriage and having children because he recognizes he is not "whole" or capable of raising children without shadows of his own childhood (violence) coming out. Perhaps one day that will change too.
I do appreciate your input and genuine concern. May you be blessed today.