Regardless if we live in a Real Universe full of Solid Matter, or if we live in a Holographic Universe, the REAL QUESTIONS We should be looking at are:
1) Why are we here?
2) What can we do to better serve our Purpose?
Personally, I believe we are here to Learn lessons, which can mean We have to face Adversities, Pain & Suffering, to help us expand our Universal Consciousness...
For me, I like to think that Things Happen for Us... & ... Not to Us.
With this in Mind... I try to Accept All Situations, whether Good or Bad, with an Open Heart & Mind, and to Look for the Deeper Meaning behind them.
During my Daily Silent Sitting, I like to meditate on how I could have better conducted myself and what the Universe was trying to teach me.
Also, I try not to attach too much Feeling to an Idea or an Emotion that might pop into my head out-of-the-blue, but instead, I like to take a step back and observe the Thought and let it pass through me... I notice when I do this, I don't project into the Future as much & I don't live in the Past, either. But, rather, I tend to be more "Present," & as a result I find myself usually in a Happier, if not more Content Mood, most of the time.
Click to read, Do We Live in a HOLOGRAPHIC UNIVERSE?
Peace to All Beings...