I've learnt that people are not always what they appear to be and since we can't access the mind of another we can't be too sure of who they truly are. Also, when it comes to emotions what truly count is how long it lasts, the sincerity and motivating factor or factors behind those emotions. For if someone loves you for the wrong reasons, example your looks, that's no love at all. What happens if your looks fades? Or you got involved in a damaging accident? Or grow too fat?
If he sends you gifts and money that does not mean he loves you, he might simply just be generous by nature or he has more than enough to spare.
Calling you 10 times a day doesn't always symbolize love, it could be obsession or he is just a control freak. Remember people are good at hiding their true character until you work down the aisle.
Him telling you sweet things, composing love poems, and sending mind blowing messages to you everyday, still doesn't prove his love is true. He could just be good at words.
Him chasing you around, introducing you to his friends and using you as his screen saver and dp does not guarantee his love either, he might just be attracted to your charm and beauty or simply wants you to satisfy his ego. The whole charade could even be a game.
The fact he showers you with so much care and everything is going smoothly still doesn't prove the certainty of his love. Remember a calm sea never shows the true skills of a sailor.
What proves love is when your at your worst, when your broken and he is at his best but still, he stands by you. Even in his anger he respect you enough to stop himself from hitting you. When his ex or first love shows up and his love for you does not waver. He sees other girls and no matter what they do he doesn't waver. He doesn't pressurise you with his feelings. He can let you go if that's the best for you for what truly matters to him is your happiness. He holds you close when you need it and gives you space when necessary. He is not just a lover but a friend in all seasons. He is never jealous of your success rather he helps and encourage you to chase your dream. He corrects your mistakes with love and takes time to understand you. He doesn't impose his love on you but let it naturally grow in you, through sincere deeds and not by using money and gifts to buy you. He is good and warm to your family and friends. Very sensitive to your needs and never lukewarm towards your issues. Above all, he loves you for no particular reason but simply for who you are. Your essence and worth.
A true lover is like an handkerchief. You don't see or feel him as a burden, he is always with you by heart. His absence makes you feel incomplete. He wipes your sweats during hardships and wipe your tears when your in pain.
I'm no love freak, just had these thoughts and decided to share....
You write really good dear... i loved every word that composed this writeup❤
Thanks alot @kriskazy... like i said just wanted to share my thoughts
Yeah... true words youv'e written
Some persons claim to care and after a while they just change... even friends to same not just lovers
Yeah... i've had friends like that!
They all act the same even the ones you thought wouldn't be like that
Nice write up, though i have some reservations in some area.
Hope you will do the same
Hope you will be the same in all seasons, especially when its extremely dry
Hope you will do same and not tell him to "let you go if that's the best for you for what truly matters to him is your happiness." especially in the dry seasons.
Love is beautiful and sometimes very difficult especially when we are at the receiving end.