RE: Do you think or are you thinking?

Great thought!

I agree with you, framing things in terms of "what I'm thinking right now" as opposed to "what I think" more accurately reflects the human condition, and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that the words I say matter more than I was initially trained to believe.

For some time now, I've been reteaching myself to be more careful about what I say, and to not make idle promises or white lies. It has made me a more mindful person. For instance, when someone asks me to do something (maybe go to an event or something), and I'm not really feeling it, I used to just say "Yeah, OK" because it felt rude to say no. Doing that in trivial cases eventually trained me to not take my word as seriously as I want to, so now I make a point of not saying "yes" unless I'm certain I will follow through.

I was surprised at how liberating it feels, and how much easier it became to keep track of my commitments, when I simply refuse to agree to things that I didn't fully want to agree to. And if anything, it's improved my relationships, rather than harming them because I seem rude or noncommittal.

Now I'm thinking (wink) that this may be a good next step in my process of retraining myself to speak more accurately and honestly.