For a change let me give you some important advice...
Don't neglect your friend just because you are in a relationship. Don't get so court-up in the excitement of a new relationship that its cause you to forget the people that have been there for you way before this relationship be can't be to existence. Honestly, think all a lot of people needs to learn how to properly balance and manage their friends and the relationship therein and not neglect one for the other.
I have seen and heard of so many friends come to an end because some in that friend circle guard in a new relationship and got so court-up in a excitement of the law and as a result, completely neglecting to forget about their friends. And that is completely unfair!
And to that, I say firstly your friends on a backup plan. They should just exist to you when it's convenient for you or when you have a falling out in a relationship. And the truth is if your relationship to some reason doesn't work out and comes to an end,
and I don't wish upon that to anybody I just am realistic here.
The friends that you push away and neglecting by that relationship might not be there for you when you need them at the end. Because you neglected them and push them away so much that they realize that they deserve better than to be in a position whether just neglected and only brought up when it's convenient for you. And that's I mean really think about.
Another thing I would like to add is if you are in a relationship with your partner, expect you to see your friends and family less for the sake to see them more. That's unhealthy relationship but not someone should be with because healthy relationship, your partner would respect your space. They would understand the fact that you have friends and you have family that you need to see and would encourage you to see it. They wouldn't be totally selfish and have an unrealistic expectation and it's all about them and you just see them all the time 24/7, they should understand the fact that you have friends, you have family and they shouldn't be neglected for the sake of them. That's not fared for you and not fared to your friends.
If you push some of away for long enough, don't be surprised that there not there for you when you need them most. If you take someone for granted, then no glad to go someone else who doesn't take it for granted. You wouldn't want your friends forgetting about you just because they got into a relationship, so, why do that to them?
I guess the general message here is,
- Don't get so court-up in your life with whatever, whoever is this that's cause you to forget and neglect the people who're stock by you for so long.
If you really care about the people in your life, then you need to be consistent with them otherwise the connection will die. That's just the reality of it.
- Don't take the people in your life for granted. Don't neglect them and push them away because if you do that full it enough, they might not come back.
And you need to realize that loyalty is rare so if you find it whether it is in a relationship or a friendship, treasure it!
I wish you all nothing but the best! Have a great day!
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Great advice here ! I would never turn my back on my friends over a relationship. because they come and go but real friends are there forever.
Hahaha... You have a point! But make it a balance relationship between you her/him and friends... (^_^)
i have a friend before, nung nag ka bf hindi na nagexist huhu! so hinayaan namin, then ayun nagbreak sila, kaya lang nagparamdam ulit. in the end, narealize nya yung fault nya, and now she's in relationship again pero still in touch pa din samin :)
That is the reason I made this information... So that all can realize their mistakes!
yes po, thanks for this! :D
i rember my bestfriendd... ;( my long lost bestfriend.. :(
Girl or boy? LOL
Dapat po talaga people will learn to weigh things according to importance😊 thanks for sharing
yes... Understanding!
This is one of a king artcile☺️ Hahaha never did that to my friends because I don’t want someone to control me even now😆🤣
Hahaha... No one will control you... Just don't neglect them... (^_^)
Very nice advise thanks @kennyroy
You're welcome!
Guilty! ✋
I left a lady friend in a dark bus stop, alone and at night because I wanted to hang out with my S.O.
She was fine and went home unharmed. It was good that she forgave me. 😅
Hahaha... Why did you do that! Be good next time... 😊
I'm a better friend now than I was before. ^.^