I hear you. When I'm not rushed, it's so much easier to consider those things. If I had one more hour to redo it, the track would be so much tighter.
I wish I had audio editing skills of any kind, but I just have each triggered balanced on the module to a level where I can hear myself clearly enough. It's one of the biggest challenges of playing over music on an electronic kit vs acoustic. Especially with a track, I need each piece to be loud enough to hear when playing. The music plays in my ears very loud and I don't know how to lower it independently without touching the master volume. The sticks on the pads also make a competing noise that's very distracting distracting which I need to drown out.
I'm playing on a Roland TD-30KV.