Thank you for sharing your heart-wrenching experience, Monica. I feel the agony you are going through. I, also, experienced several unexpected negative experiences with my son following my separation and divorce. Sadly, my 18 year old son took his life. Our relationship was not perfect at the end, but it was congenial. I'm grateful that my last words to him on a phone call two nights before he died were: I love you.
I hope that you can heal your relationship with all of these loved ones. As tough as it might be, it might be best to disengage completely for a while. Let everyone have a break from the drama that has developed.
Seems like this is the time to heal and to nourish yourself.
I wish you the best as you go through this terrible ordeal. Have faith that, one day, love will prevail.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I am so sorry you had to endure the death of your son. Two of my friends had their sons take their own lives - they were little kids. It is unbelievable.