I sometimes lose my patience when it comes to dealing with my little one's tantrums. I am just lucky I married a wonderful man who can tolerate my son's meltdowns and always reminds me to keep my cool but when he keeps on having this ear-shattering screams, add the punching and kicking and scratching on my face especially in the public area when trying to pacify him is kind of embarrassing and awkward that sometimes keeps my temper out of control too. Pretty draining.
Ibalik ta timo kar on sa busong ko!
I will return you to my womb!
These are the words I often mumble when my son throws a temper tantrum. And from there, my hero husband enters the scene, always to the rescue.
Here I listed down SOME WAYS TO TAME AND DEAL with little one's TANTRUMS in public areas with the help of my husband:
If the situation gets frustrating, take deep breathes.
Speak softly and ask what your child wants. Control your emotions. Don't let your child's tantrums get into you.
Speak in a soothing voice. Yelling, pointing a finger and threatening your child won't do any good. Chances are, your child will just get wilder. This is what I observe when dealing my son. The more I yell at him, the more he screams.
Give your child something to play with while in their stroller. They also get bored while just sitting in their strollers doing nothing. Bring their favorite toys. I always make sure I bring my son's favorite lolo lion, a stuffed toy lion when going out. It helps him calms down during his meltdowns.
It's awkward having a screaming child in tow while doing your shopping that's why mall restroom is my bestfriend. We squeezed ourselves in a cubicle and allow him to scream as he might while hugging him until he calms down. Sometimes a screaming child only wants attention that can only be stopped if you are in a private area. Explain to your child that he can cry as long as he wants while in there. Saves yourself from embarrassment too.
If diversions are not working, try carrying your child. I do carry my 17-months old and 30 lbs son for a good 10 minutes while shopping. It buys you time sometimes. My husband bought a carrier for our toddler to support us when carrying him during our outside walks and shopping. You never know when your child's tantrums gonna start.
Parents are the safest place to let your child emotions out. Explain to them that their behavior is not acceptable. If hug works for us adults, this definitely works with our children too. It helps relieves anxiety and stress. So next time your toddler throws tantrums, try to give him a comforting hug. Maybe they just simply want your affection.
Thank you for reading.
mother of a 17-month old boy
Love this! When I get mad with my daughter, I rarely yell/get angry. I always give her a hug after I scolded her for something she did wrong. Okay lang magalit pero pag nakinig naman, appreciate them too and tell them you love em :)
Totoo. Pero minsan aksi pagod kana tapos pagdating sa bahay ngawa ng ngawa. hahah!! Sila ung pagod na nakakawala ng pagod sis. :D
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These info will be handy in the future Thanks mom i meam mam for sharing :)
bilisan na sis. Sarap maging nanay. :D
I salute people who has the patience for kids haha
same here. kelangan lang din talgang sobrang haba ng pasensya.
I agree with @bloghound :)
Really true, it's very frustrating sometimes specially if you didn't know the reason behind their outburst. Hugs and kisses do the tricks for me.. :-)
Especially with kids who don't talk yet. Action lang. Turo2. heheh!!
Hang in there mommy! Time flies and soon you'll see your little one is already a grown up kid. 😉
I have 3- 8 y/o, 3.5 and 22mos. Though they do not throw tantrums a lot, but my little one is so active he wants to run in all directions!
Kaya kapit lang. Di ka nag iisa. 😅😉😆
Naiimagine kita sis with your kids. Hayz. Ako maya2, "no. dont." hahahaha!!
Haha... true... kaya naman first word nila is "NO".. kasi un ang madalas marinig. Lol.😂
A very sweet and loving approach to parenting! My husband and I watched a video where toddlers (brother and sister) smeared peanut butter all over the house. When my husband saw how proud they were of their work, he laughed and said, "You can't even be mad at them for this!"
It goes along so well with tantrums and meltdowns too. There are just so many loving approaches to showing them appropriate behavior.
Hi @wachtelsgfamily. Agree with you . And I dont believe in physical punishment either. Thanks for stopping by. :)
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If I'll be married soon I'm gonna remember all these reminders and you really have a very good husband for dealing it. By the way, how did you make this kind of formatting? hehe
I am really lucky for having him @lebron2016
I used this. Feel free to ask me anytime. :)
I am happy my daughter was kind of peaceful. I feel sorry for those mothers who have more than 1 and all are in tantrums lol
para sigurong sa gyera Ma'am daisy. Hahaha!!
dealing wit tantrums is make them do with more love not hate so that it will not do more tantrums what they see in their eye make them more love and care.
Tama po. ☺️
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Thank you so much. I guess most parents can relate to this. :) Following you too.
This is a very good read for our Steemit parents. Nice! :-)
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Really a good post for the new parents who are new in dealing with such issue. This is really helpful and these advice must be followed to keep our child safe and sound. Continue sharing your experience on the journey to raise a child.
Thank you so much @hafiz34 and for stopping by. Will continue to do so. I love writing about life's experiences. :) following you too.
Kids are kids and I love them!