Every relationship has power struggles. The key is to be in control of oneself and only state what is needed in a loving manner. The consequences of the individual trying to manipulate or trying to gain power over you, be it consciously or not, can only be obtained if you decide to not control your emotions and think before dealing with the situation at hand. Example: Wife wants the husband to take out the trash. She asks him to take out the trash. He replies, "I will in just a moment." Wife asks again 30 minutes later. Husband replies, "I will as soon as _________ is over." 1 hour later wife yells at husband to take out the trash or he can make his own breakfast and lunch on his workdays. SEE? Same tyoe of thing. What can you do? 1. Ask once in a nice voice."Dear/Honey can you please take out the trash so that I can mop the kitchen floor?" If he says, "I will in just a moment." Then say "Please give me an exact time so that I know when itvwill be done so that I can mop the floor. If the floor is not mopped before I go to bed then I will have to do it tomorrow and will not have tge time to make your cofee, breakfast and lunch." This way he knows you are givung the ultimatum but you are still loving. If he does not take out the trash and you do it the next morning then mop the floor. DO NOT make his coffee, breakfast or lunch. BELIEVE ME IT WORKS!! If you do make his coffee, breakfast, and lunch normally. So everyone no matter what the relationship is this works if you find that the other person ignores you until you are yelling at them.
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