More Passive Aggressive Behavioral Traits
Resist and resent requests and expectations of others, especially by authority figures
Anger is expressed in subtle, covert, and masked ways
Often respond by passive resistance and refusal to cooperate
Often exhibit compliant defiance and hostile cooperation, especially in work environments
Often have a victim mentality and feel misunderstood, unappreciated, and screwed over
Often blame their own mistakes and problems on others instead of taking ownership and responsibility
Lacking in self confidence masked by bravado
Experiences that may lead to Passive Aggressive Behavior
A reaction to parental abuse
A reaction to unrealistic parental expectations
Not learning how to express healthy anger, which is to acknowledge and assertively express feelings in non-destructive ways
Reaction to Dominant Father, Passive Mother or vice-versa where the child becomes passive aggressive toward the Dominant Parent
Types of Passive Aggressive Behavior:
- Deliberate inefficiency
- Intentional escalation of problems
- Subtle revenge
- Self-depreciation
Passive Aggressive Behavior in Communities and/or the Workplace
Passive Aggressive Behavior tends to be prevalent in the work place due to the professional nature and hierarchy of business structures.
People spend a majority of time with their co-workers and naturally form relationships, but expressing emotions is often deemed unacceptable due to the professional standards of the work environment.
And depending on the work environment, it can be objectionable or at the very least uncomfortable to even assertively express anger due to the hierarchical structure of the business model.
Passive aggressive behavior is not a healthy way to interact with other people.
It will rot us from the inside.
I believe it’s much better to say things straight to tha e face and just be ourselves. This way we will be much more comfortable and probably more happy too
There is a Personality Test; MBTI Test which measures the ones personality to an accurate level. So i took tests of my whole family a discovered their respective personalities and i also found what issues they can face and through which points they can enjoy the life. Passive aggressive as you mentioned in your previous blog ( i am a consistent reader of your blogs) you beautifully describe the issues of this behavior and now you mentioned a few more traits their possible reasons but you did not mention what is the number of people who has passive aggressive behavior specifically stats. @aggroed
By the way your these blogs helped me a lot to understand the psyche of human nature more closely and deeply. For this you deserve massive respect. Great Job <3
I love your discussion on Passive Aggressive Behavior and you can actually write a book on this one or be a speaker at a forum on how to deal with this behavior. I had a training once on Assertive Behavior but your discussion and articles about Passive Aggressive are more detailed and well explained. Thank you very much for sharing this to us @aggroed.
It's a pretty complex- and sadly common- issue I deal with quite a lot in my coaching and counseling practice.
Most of the time, I've found the behavior can be tracked back to hyper-critical or hyper-supportive parents. One sets up a latent anger at having anything or anyone try to control your life, but without any tools to express feelings in a healthy manner (because it was probably unsafe, in childhood). The other sets up a sense of entitlement that leads to someone becoming sullen and "difficult" when they don't get their way, because they were taught to expect to always get their way.
Thanks for providing these insightful articles.
Bright Blessings!
Those traits combined, i have seen them in some people. A person with such traits of passive aggression can be very dangerous.
They can wait to express healthy anger and let it bottle up and when they react, their reactions always lead to something so serious, fights,destruction of property, backstabbing.
I think a person who is passive aggressive needs professional attention.
Passive aggressive is one of those monikers that gets thrown around a lot but I think is misunderstood more often than not. Thank you for the insight and clarity.
Lolz... This can also be seen in most African homes where your parents get to upset you and you can do absolutely nothing and then your passive aggressive nature comes up. But does passive aggression really solve anything because most times those it is geared toward don't even have an idea about it.
Wow after reading this it became apparent to me just how many people I know are actually passive aggressive :O Thanks for this article!
good article
thanks for share
Besides the anger and anger they have experienced, the suggestions made by other people are interpreted as interfering with their freedom because they are sensitive to external control. While they are with other people, they both expect to be controlled by these people and they strongly oppose it.. @aggroed
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Very helpful
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WELL OBSERVED ! I NOTE SOME POINTS DOWN IN MY BOOK.
Well, I need to change myself 😇😅
Good article...thank you
Spot on.
A very useful post, thank you for the article @aggroed
A good read. Now I think I was like this but somehow things changed.
true that aggressive behaviour usually exist in work place. in my thoughts, understanding to each other help to prevent aggressive behaviour. we must understand the person on why they are behaving that way.
I've been there.. I know when i was there, the one person acting strangely between my colleague...
But glad I've fought and got outside of that dark zone, malicious thoughts...
And one thing I learn that
Always praise your GOD, HE will never let you disappoint.
Wow!
I'm really glad I started following you. These posts are solid gold; I've come across loads of venomous personalities with traits such as passive aggressiveness (one annoying symptom of them trying to express their power is also procrastination).
I've been aware of these kinds of things but never have been able to articulate them properly. Your writing really helps me with this.
THANK YOU
kindest regards,
Esa
Thanks for the info..
@Resteem
Interesting, is easy to recognize some of this attitudes on many people I know, it can drive us crazy though I recognize I'm sometimes like this too.
I still prefer passive-aggressive to aggressive-aggressive, passive-agressive doesn't get you punched in the face :)
thanks a lot
I have been guilty of passive aggressive behavior at work. Businesses can and will make rules to maximize profit at worker expense, and pass profits to stockholders instead of employees. Bringing work expectations up only gets you the polite smile and the promise to take complaints into consideration. I hated constantly feeling like a victim who has no choice. Eventually this led me to quit working. I'm much happier, but a lot poorer. Realizing the con of capitalist control is an eye opener.
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It seems like people who live and act in this nature are quite frequent everywhere. I would almost group mentality like this into a form of neurosis.
Interesting and truthful read...Have a happy day.
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