My replies were not intended to be pretentious or mysterious. The reason for not immediately offering my opinion on what is behind the upset, is because i will effectively be interfering with your karma by sharing this point if view. One (or more ?) of my teachers advise to ask three times before doing this. Well, i think i have asked enough as you originally asked for an answer in your post. So here goes.
This post of mine from a few weeks ago, and my reply to artgirl's reply below the post, offers a summary of another viewpoint as to why this has happened.
https://peakd.com/hive-174122/@atma.love/why-does-bad-stuff-happen
i am not saying this is absolute truth. It cannot be so, as words only exist in the duality of the dream of life, but the words may point a way out of the maze so absolute truth can be experienced.
Hope this helps.
Sat Nam
Atma
gotcha. read your post and understand where you're coming from. all the best.