What is important? Society or family, if you are from India then it is highly possible that you would say society. We are so very scared of 'not fitting in society' thing that we put everything after society be it out own child's happiness.
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Mother's in Indian families are hell scared of society. Chaar log (four people (society)) matters to them more than their own child. I remember how my mother would behave when I went out with friends because my neighbor told her that I was roaming around a near by mall with my gang which also included boys. We Indians also live in bad marriages because we don't want the society to tag us as divorcees.
Recently a couple from southern Indians State of Kerala abondoned their 2 day old baby outside a church just because she feared that the society would laugh at them for having a 4th baby. However, they didn't think about what people would say when the news about them abondoning a 2 day old baby would come out. The CCTV outside the church captured the couple commiting the crime which led to them being arrested.
unfortunately a mother is afraid of the surrounding community, willing to get rid of a 2-year-old child
I think didi first family. but society also important