A Deeper Connection
The name we give to someone who we are in a relationship with are a remarkably universal technique of being demonstrative, showing fondness, and sticking out tenderness. In our lifetime we may jump from relationship to relationship, but this yields a new array of nicknames which can offer you an extremely positive emotional charge. Once somebody calls you "Precious," and it's how you would like to be thought of by that person, it will truly increase the attraction you're feeling for that individual.
Consistent with many traditions and philosophies, there's power in naming things, and once this power is wielded by those that opt to use it to their own advantage, nicknames and different nomenclature-related communications can do great damage.
A Whole New Language
Some couples have trigger words that convey a deeper meaning than would possibly seem to others on the surface. You and your partner may share a “trigger word” that's used once making an attempt to graciously bow out of a gathering that’s gone on too long, as an example.
Over time and as you learn each others gestures and facial expressions and you develop a language of your own in which everyone else is oblivious too. A roll of the eyes, a passing smirk, a forced yawn, or maybe an explicit gaze is also all that’s required for you or your partner to let the other one understand what’s going through your minds.
Purity Of Childhood
Given the similarities, it’s hardly coincidental that romantic partners not solely complimentarily call each other “baby” however have interaction in a number of similar “baby talk” folks use once they talk to their actual babies.
Childhood—especially early childhood—is a time once the universal need to feel unconditionally accepted, cared and approved of, is predominant. As adults, it’s undeniable that within the wonderful “heat” of an infatuated attachment we have a tendency to get the most unreserved, criticism-free confirmation of our relational worth.
We feel fulfilled maybe like never before—or at least not since infancy. And this gratification of our heart’s deepest need to feel not simply positively regarded but cherished and adored erases any and all anxiety regarding being abandoned—unquestionably, a child’s worst nightmare.
I don't know how this doesn't have more comments because that last paragraph had me shook, that is so true. There is something primordial about that feeling connected to these words. It's so strange that a work can evoke such a feeling, it's like the nicotine hit after a drag on a cigarette. That line 'Word heat', is that your phrase? It perfectly describes the affectivity of certain words on evoking an emotional response.
It's strange how we reuse a lot of the same emotional pathways between family and loved ones.
I guess we treat our loved one as family. Someone who we wish to never let go and rather than being binded by blood it is of course by love.
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I must admit i hated
when my boyfriend called me baby, i think it was too childish and i prefere other nicknames.