I'm glad you bring up these great points @kimwainwright
Thank you. As far as the hard push toward the language of selfishness, yes it is rigid, and maybe someone could say that I'm rambling on about a word choice.....
However, it seems to me, what we refer to as selfishness is akin to a "program" that is being misused because of divisions that we are placing on the totality of our experience and relationship with our surroundings.
I think in some ways, starting from the acceptance of selfishness builds what might be a better framework for inclusion. We protect ours fiercely. Maybe there is a better way to present that and paint the same picture.
The main goal is to move from looking out for ourselves, like we start out doing, and continue to expand our sphere of self until we are effortlessly looking out for the well being of others using the "coding" already running the program "selfishness" so to speak.
Yes @kimwainwright the intention is not to label good acts in a negative manner. I would be interested to read what you might add to that. Thank you for getting involved in the conversation! :)