I agree that doing whatever you want doesn't lead to a happy partner in our current environment, though I don't see this as a reason to abide such dysfunction. A lot of people hung from the gallows for speaking truth; it doesn't mean they should have just went along to get along.
Considering that feelings are responses to thoughts, if the thoughts generating those feelings are misguided, then to "take into account how the other person feels" implies factoring in erroneous thinking into your decision-making process.
Now, there's a certain amount of patience and compassion one may choose to employ to facilitate another's learning process, but if the person stubbornly holds to false beliefs in the face of sound reason, I don't think it serves anyone - especially them - to enable their ignorance by acting in accordance with it.
The only reason why someone would be upset by what their significant other does (barring flagrant rights violations) is because they want control:
"I don't want you staying out late because then you'll wake up late and I'll have to wait for you."
I don't want you talking to that other guy because you may like him better and I'm insecure and needy for your attention."
I want you to cut your hair and beard so you can get a better job because I want material things, and I want you to help me buy them."
None of this has anything to do with love. It's all slavery, as unpopular as that may be to say. A true loving relationship would stretch the boundaries of the current cultural imagination. It would be all sharing, caring, and connection, and would demand absolutely nothing from the other person (again, outside of basic morality).
And not just because it's wrong to make such demands, but because there would be a genuine desire for the one you love to live in full expression of their true self.