If it seemed that you prevent something to live and be a happy person, then urgently need to change something. And if we talk specifically, the case here in the many excuses, from which you need to get rid of as soon as possible.
Agree, it is unpleasant to realize that you had a great chance, and you did not use it for some reason, and now look for an excuse why you missed this chance, in fact. You don't have to find excuses, but you don't have to get hung up on it. Release the situation and move on, but know that if you have a good opportunity, then in any case it should not be missed.
To do this, you need to start working on yourself and exclude from life those principles that prevent you from moving forward and becoming a successful person.
"It's too late for me."
According to the stereotypes that are imposed on us from childhood, we need to go through certain stages in our lives. And this is the end of school, University, employment, wedding and children. It's possible that you're moving a little slower in your life than others, but that doesn't mean you're falling behind. Therefore, you have on a subconscious level there is a barrier that you have later, for example, to enter the University or change jobs.
Decision. Give yourself a setting: "Now is the time to move forward." Repeat this setting often. It can also be altered for a specific situation. For example,"Now is the time to enter the UNIVERSITY."«No time.»
All people, successful and not, have exactly 24 hours to manage their lives and make it happy. Only everyone has his own time and spends it on their own. Write a list of things you spend a lot of time on, and then ask yourself how important it is to you and may be worth giving it up. For example, from social networks, watching TV, long conversations on the phone.
Decision. Learn how to properly manage your own time. Set your priorities and follow them.«Low self esteem.»
Perhaps you think you are a boring person and therefore are afraid that you will not interest other people. This is another excuse and justification for his reluctance to do anything. Each person is interesting and individual in his own way.
Decision. "I'm an interesting person, I'm a person." Remember this statement and do not stop repeating it yourself. This will not only raise your self-esteem, but also save you another excuse."I don't deserve this."
What makes you think that? Are you so do not love yourself, what can you think of something don't deserve it? You don't need to limit yourself, and understand that you, like other people, deserve to be happy. The only thing you can change is to make the right choice, which is the solution to this problem.«Responsibility.»
This is a positive quality of a successful personality, but if it is directed in the right direction. Perhaps, having a small child, you do not get anything for yourself, as you are responsible for the little man. You need to be a responsible person, but do not forget about yourself, sometimes pamper yourself and make yourself pleasant purchases, for example."Nobody understands me."
If you need an understanding of a loved one, then try to approach him with their problems and questions, when a person is set up. Otherwise, you may again face the problem of misunderstanding. It is high time to understand that other people have no less problems, and they also get tired all day long."Nobody thinks about me."
Think about you family and friends, but they do not have all the time to remind you about it. Therefore, learn to think about yourself and rely only on yourself."I'm not that smart."
You may have had many attempts to become a successful person, to finish a large project, but you did not succeed. But that doesn't mean you're not smart, which means you have to try again."My parents gave me the wrong upbringing."
No need to blame your parents that they gave you not enough knowledge, education, not instilled any values. Parents love you very much and they did everything in their power. And you can start working on yourself and your education now. So chase away all the excuses that are associated with parents, love them."I'm not too persistent."
Do you really think it's all about perseverance and perseverance, maybe you're looking for an excuse again? Surely, you are engaged in an unloved business, and you have to force yourself to work, for example. There is only one way out, try to find a job for the soul and then you will push forward the desire and incredible strength.