Well said :). Except for the word violence, it's not violence as it's not a violation, just as a doctor is not violent when cutting to heal. Truth can hurt in order to bring healing. Trust is hard to rebuild once it has been broken. Thanks for the feedback.
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Thanks. There is that connotation, you're absolutely right! That's unfortunate, b/c violence pure and simple describes the clashing of a presumptuous force set against another force. This way of looking at it is how I came up with my view on the matter.
I actually think the connotation of violation is only slightly too strong, b/c the force in question is only not violent whilst it is not accepted. Such is how we know sex and other acts of intimacy. "Violent love" is violent whilst unrequited. "Spurned love" is notoriously ill-humored. And you do not ask, "May I kiss you?," or if you do thus spoil the spontaneity, you spoil also the kiss, the emotiveness of the moment's meaning. Acceptance comes after the fact, comes after the advance, - proposition, - violence; and until accepted (if ever) it is a violation, but once accepted the violence is transformed into love.
[Just for everyone's edification: the word "violence" comes from middle Latin {vim} like the contemporary English word "vim", Latin {ius} meaning use of strength against someone, and an Indo-European root giving the sense of "rape."]