For me, I dont think love is the perfect equilibrium of pain and pleasure. It should be pleasure more than pain. Somehow i never really measure which is more, coz i believe loving genuinely is expecting less from that person and his or her happiness is the main priority. With or without a "me" in her or his life. Hopefully, i didnt offend you with my comment
You didn’t, but we have to look at it with more balance you have to take the good with the bad, and understand the “grey areas” of such a vast emotion. Great comment!
Give space and you get love; give love and you get space.
When you love someone, you’re the nicest and the meanest too them. You support and challenge, you’re pleasant and unpleasant, you lift them up and you put them down, you do things for them and ignore them. Those are the two sides of love. The myth says that you’re supposed to show only one side, but that creates tension in a relationship and in your life because it represses half of the truth.