Refined is a word I wouldn't use of myself, but I thank you. Even when I try to be elegant and well put together, I feel a little rough around the edges. And if I don't, I pull some hairs loose or smudge out the eye makeup, ever so slightly. I think it adds a certain interest.
Which one and how big do you want it? ;)
Hm... could be I used the wrong word. Meant the German "raffiniert", and it covers a pretty wide range (http://www.dict.cc/?s=raffiniert). In this context it would mean exactly what you are doing... its not just plain simple elegance, but a step beyond... even if it means a hair out of place or something like that.
In my own work I call it "something to scratch the eye a little".. which probably sounds odd too :-/
Oh that sounds a lot better and I think I know what you mean :)
The one where you put on the earring and the last one are my favorite... big enough, so one can see every "loose hair" ;-)