Last year at this time, we were waiting for our little girl to arrive. We knew it was a little girl from the structural ultrasound. She was in a position that it was quite obvious for all, even the untrained parents in the room. I would have been happy with a boy too but, I feel like I would be a better father for a girl.
I have always had better relationships with women because I am probably more interested in them too. Women in some ways are much more complicated than men and harder to 'understand'. It may not actually be so but from my position, this is how it appears to me.
Some people want equality between the sexes, for me, I actually think that would be a negative. I am not talking about pay distribution and glass ceilings, but the difference between masculine and feminine creates a polarity and tension that both draws and repels. It is this constant push and pull that helps make each pole consider, create and evolve. The homogenisation of the sexes would be a loss of a core diversity that I see as vital for our development.
Each sex has their differing biology and this creates varying problems in experience and therefore, differing vantage points of the same things. This can be used as a creative force where all sides come together and bring their generalized talents. But, each person within the generalization is also an individual with a diversified portfolio of skills, perspectives and ideas. Binding an individual to any group and limiting their voice based upon the judgement is an act of violence.
The way I am approaching the raising of my daughter is to help her understand and develop her unique skills as an individual and the wisdom to understand that part of who she is lays within her as a woman. What that means for her, that is up to her and it is her job to discover the relevancy or irrelevancy as she answers the question, 'Who am I?'. Not society's, an activist's or a misogynist's opinion about who they think she is.
I don't get into gender equality arguments very often although I think I will add some commentary or questions from time to time in the future. What I don't like about it though is that when talking about gender issues, men are not allowed to comment and are seen as the cause of the problems. This to me is what is slowing down the discussion immensely and pushing into the bounds of censorship of free speech. Another discrimination that people fought hard to try to abolish earlier.
I don't have much of this worked out yet but, if I am to help raise a strong woman, shouldn't I have my voice and concerns heard too? Shouldn't I also be a part of the discussion? People see that there is conflict between men and women, that it is us against them. I think it is just us being foolish rather than wise. Highly educated ignorance.
Taraz
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I am sure you will make a good father, from what i am reading so far. gender equality is a speculative topic. men and women will always bi different and that is where the beauty lies. I am not talking about the rights here. I think it has to be a given. Not just between man and woman but throughout races, sexes, statuses and other. I hope this is not utopia. And the gold photos look really gold. Get yourself a big, healthy precious nugget :)
I am not a parent but I would definitely have the same concerns. I believe that anything that goes to the extreme levels is not good, finding a balance is the key.
Great post and beautiful photos! Upvoted! :)
People often go to extreme measures to protect or push their belief safe-zone. Very few go to extreme measures to find out whether what they belief is true.
We should raise our kids in the awarness that all people are 99.9% percent equal to the person next , and only very 0.1% or less unique.
We are all equal and we should embrace this.
Great post @tarazkp
I see that a kilo of water or a kilo of stone is the same measure yet each has differing practical applications. That 0.1 percent is variation enough for great things.
We just had our first child and she is now 10 months old. Thank you for sharing this, because I have similar concerns and questions about raising my daughter as well. I want her to be able to do anything she wants, and not be afraid to try certain things because she is a woman. We could all help bridge the gap by communicating better, and by there not being so many groups out there that instead of bringing the gender equality gap closer, they are pushing it further apart.
It is definitely doing more harm than good at the moment as the liberals are becoming aggressive extremists and shouting down all that question their rule.
With my daughter (turns 1 in a little over a week) the conversations have already started. She and I are going to talk a lot about many issues so that we can work through this life together and both be stronger individuals apart.
Complete post @tarazkp, excelent points in text and beautiful photos. Upvoted, resteemed & DPS.
thank you very much, it is appreciated greatly. Your rep is booming :)
First of all, those are some beautiful pictures...
As for raising a girl in today's world, I'm afraid it is not only about telling her than she can be whatever she wants to be, but also making sure her mind isn't poisoned by the deluded feminists out there. The level of hatred against men is incredible and it's going to get worse I'm afraid. I was just writing earlier about strong women and I needed to do some search on Google. Some of the results were so scary I didn't have the nerve to click on them!
I can imagine. It is interesting when so called feminists have created a mold in which women should fit and any that do otherwise are traitors to the cause. Delusion is the correct word for any extremist that thinks their opinion is the correct one and should be enforced on all others.
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STOPNice article!!! From me apvote.
Nice tarazkp. The Matrix loves it.