Dear Tamaralovelace, my heart and tears go out to you and of course Rodney. I just read your post and was so shocked by what has happened. My prayers and best wishes for him to find strength, courage and determination to make that long journey to recovery. I also pray for God to give you strength and much love during this very difficult time. No mother should have to go through what you are going through. It is so heartbreaking and shocking.
It is extremely important to keep letting him know you are there. I've worked with many such cases and the one thing that they all said when they recovered was the fact that they could hear everything and just hearing that familiar voice makes all of the difference. Even if their eyes are closed, they somehow will hear what their loved ones are saying. That bridge to reality keeps them connected and there seems to be a strong pathway for them to keep fighting. Continue to hold his hand and talk to him. If possible, also gently place your hand on his forehead and slowly sweep upward. That is what many do to comfort a patient. I would hold his hand like you are doing. A lot is conveyed through touch and the hand.
Tamaralovelace, your beautiful poem said everything. It was a heart felt expression of a mother's love and concern. You should frame that poem because it is a beautiful piece of love. Be strong and persevere through this horrible time. Take care of yourself because your son will need you to be strong for him. I will constantly think of you and pray for your son. If you need to talk, you can try steemit chat. I'm listed under cabbagepatch. Our time zones I think are six hours off but it you leave a message, I will be notified by my email.
Be strong and try to find the strength to give your son hope and determination to pull through. It will help him. When you can, please give us updates so that we may there with you in spirit. Please take care!....Cabbagepatch!
Oh my sweet, sweet friend... that is the kindest, warmest hug ever. I am a bit in shock, still. I mean I am here, sitting here for these past three days, I know it is happening, but the enormity of it hasn't sunk in yet, I don't think. My mind is coming down off of the numbing tears, and it hurts. My eyes hurt and I can't sleep. I got my computer today and first wrote the poem for my son. It was to be private I didn't want to share it with anyone. I remembered your posts and how the writing of them eased your discomfort, pain and sadness. And so I wrote this post. I've never prayed so hard, cried so much, or hurt so much ever. When I heard your words in my head about writing easing the pain, the funny thing is I imagined it in your voice, a voice as soft and comforting as your words. Isn't that funny? Thank you so much for your many kindnesses and I will take you up on the chat during the coming days, if you have the time. I am on family medical leave from work and now 'live' here in the trauma center until he is stepped down into regular icu. I spend countless hours each day just sitting beside him reading his facebook messages or talking about this and that. Forgive me for rambling on, I do that in the best of times. Thank you for the continued hope and encouragement, prayers, well wishes, etc. I would have a difficult time indeed without all the encouragement!
Tamaralovelace, I know you are going through so much right now. When you can take deep healing breaths and push out the negative energy. Try to envision sending healthy positive vibes to both yourself and your son. Being present with him is very powerful. Touch and your voice is also very powerful. Be strong and be hopeful. Right now we need to take each hour, each day one step at a time. Eventually you will realize what is happening. The brain protects us so we don't overload so that is why you are in a fog like reality.
You have to eat and rest when you can. Some situations do take time and the waiting can be hard. But you are a good and strong person who can do it. Make sure you drink water and keep hydrated. Dig deep into your inner being and find the source of your strength. You are not alone. We are all with you in spirit. Like I said, if you need to express yourself, just either use Steemitchat or start writing your thoughts down. I did the same when Lady was diagnosed with lymphoma. It really helps to write your thoughts and feelings out. In a way it is like talking to a psychologist or a friend. Write what you are feeling. It does help.
If I don't write back right away, just know that I will as soon as I can. I've been spending my nights pretty much up because of Lady...have to make sure she goes out which is often. I sometimes have to take a nap during the day when my daughter and her boyfriend can help out. So there will be times I may not be able to answer.
Be strong for your son and for yourself. Believe that he will get better each hour, each day. Bones will heal but sometimes it takes the brain a little longer. Just do what you are doing. He does hear you. Have faith and believe. Please take care my friend!!!
Tamaralovelace, I just want to let you know I am thinking about you and Rodney. I continue to hope and pray that you both find the inner strength to persevere through this very difficult time. Sending you healing thoughts, love and warm embrace. Please take care!!!
Thank you again, @cabbagepatch for your kindness and caring. You are such a comfort and you write in such a calm, collected manner that it is as helpful as if you were right here. I hope your Lady is doing well...it is no less heartbreaking than sitting by a child <3
You are so welcome. I think about how you and Rodney are doing each day. Hopefully you both are hanging in there.....it can be a very draining ordeal. Lady is doing well so far. Your situation by far is worse.....I can't imagine what I would do if it were my daughter. You are such a strong woman but you still need to take care of yourself! I tried to go on Steemit chat but every time I click on your name, nothing comes up. I will try again later.
Please take care and be well Tamaralovelace. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Rodney!!!
The well wishes are working...improvements are being made incrementally, the overall progress being forward. I am not sure if I've done the Steemit chat properly. I w ill get back in there and see what I can find out.
So glad you're talking about improvements and progress. Stay strong, both of you!
Thank you so much @ladyrebecca! All the positive energy is doing much good!