I detest bad boys! This one played like he was not when it all started, I would NEVER have guessed him to be the way he really is. I mean, the first gift he gave me was a collection of poems from Hermann Hesse.
He was soft-spoken and seemed like an underdog (I love an underdog) and I had known him for a couple years before anything sexy happened. It was not until I was in deep that Mr Hyde appeared, all red-eyed and nasty.
One of my challenges in life has been staying, as I am the girl that is fast to leave bad situations, poor relations, and played out dramas. For some reason I've told myself that this is my karmic bill to pay, and his also. It's just not so clear cut.
One thing is for sure, he's given me tons of material to work with. ha.
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It doesn’t always work. But if you can get them to bring you into their “circle” — if they have one. You can gauge who they are. Show me a man’s friends and I’ll show you who he is. I think there’s a saying like that. And it seems to be pretty accurate.
If you can see how a person expresses them self around people they’re comfortable with, you should be able to see their true self. It’s almost more important than bringing them into your own circle.
Plus if they are willing to bring you to their group of friends than it could also mean that they’re accepting of you.
Finally, laying out all the expectations from the beginning can help to weed out the ones (who aren’t pathological liars) whose intentions don’t align with your own. Or find the one that does.
@hrissm, these things are very important! I was NOT let into the circles and that went well against my gut. I prefer not to get more personal, but thank you so much for this feedback. :)
The one's that hurt you usually do give the best material, but you gotta be careful with the one's with a dark passengers, Mamadini. Sounds like that may be the case with this one.
Yes I have been there.