I know what you mean, there is a point where defining stops meaningful interaction because you would have to interrupt yourself to explain the full context of every sentence. That way leads to crazy land :)
I guess the main reason I bring the point up is because Im all to aware of the current social climate surrounding some words but at the same time I dont think we should be afraid to use words like SJW or Feminist for the intended purpose. Generalisations can be very helpful to the flow of a conversation. On reading your post I could clearly see you were aware of these issues.
I admit when I saw the header I instantly assumed many things based on previous experience, mainly from interacting with, debating with and/or from reading peoples opinions online. However, as I read thru your post I was pleasantly proven wrong in my assumptions and that felt good.
Also, I worry that I too hold some crazy opinions that I simply cannot see the folly of, although I suspect thats practically inevitable and changes depending on when and where we are brought up and depends on our personal experiences.
Whew, sorry, Im a posting windbag today!
All in all, again, thanks for the post :)