Audience question, title says it all. What's your strategy? I find it varies drastically depending on the situation
How do you start conversations with strangers?
7 years ago in #politics by davidpakman (77)
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I liked this debate. It is something I need to perfect for my line of work.
Your face should help you open the conversation. Smile, feel welcoming will put you in line to talk with strangers.
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As you mentioned, I believe it's all contextual. The easiest and most natural way I feel is to always smile, greet the stranger and introduce yourself. At that very particular moment, you're no longer total strangers. At least one party knows something about the other. After that, if it's the context of an event, there has to be some commonalities or shared interest to at least get a conversation going. And as folks warm up and loosen up conversations will carry on to...
In any other context, just being a human who relates to other humans will help you strike up a conversation anywhere, anytime. Simply practicing that habit without after thought, can improve ones quality of life many fold I'm sure.
I don’t know... introducing yourself to a total stranger can be super creepy in certain situations.
It is creepy but it totally depends on how you adjust yourself according to the situation. You may have some diverging interests but you should always keep the stranger in comfort zone by giving him/her the feeling that you are very interested in what they are saying.
My strategy is simple: avoid it at all costs.
I find it very awkward to start a conversation with strangers especially the female folks. I dont know why and please dont ask me 😂😂😂
To build communication with others we have to give priority to decency in speaking. Avoiding sensitive talk and offending the other person. In this way we will be easier in finding a friend or a good co-worker.
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It definitely depends on the situation, like you say in the video if you are at a sports bar, of course the topic would be easy to discuss.
'Don't bring up something bad don't want to be negative'
NO NO NO NO NO.
This one of the best ways to go about it! Don't be super serious sourpus, sure, but light hearted riffs about something slightly annoying that they'll understand too is 100% a brilliant way to start conversation!
Just be careful not to aim the “light hearted riff” and someone the conversation target is close to! “Whoever planned this party must have too much time on their hands!”
“That would be me.”
Fair enough!
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I try to say something funny about whatever is happening around us. Or find something else we might have in common based on what I can observe about them. Smiling is helpful too.
Really interesting question! While I do not have much to bring to the discussion, but I look forfard to reading the other replies.
Good job dear, helpful post.
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I say make eye contact, be polite and do not force a conversation.
Everything else will fall in place.
You can have Argentinean, I'll go with Canadian!
With the Minnesota accent I learned I'd be a much more convincing Canuck!
interesting topic for discussion 👍👍
You are absolutely right! It has to depend on the situation... but that’s the common thread... I think most conversations that are fruitful are struck by commenting on the current situation. Most people connect through similarities, be it similar likes or jobs, and until you start talking, the only similarity you have with a stranger is your current situation. Once you start talking, you’ll find a myriad other similarities, but you’ve gotta have a starting point, right?
Sometimes asking a question to a stranger will help break the ice and expand on more conversation. Essentially, it is sometimes like probing for common interests at the same time remaining polite, upbeat and a good listener.
It is difficult enough for me to even have a conversation with someone I know that starting a conversation with some stranger is beyond my reach. lol. Think I just need to get out of my comfort zone.
I try to pay attention to body language and positioning to see if they're receptive to a conversation first. Like if two people are standing huddled in, then they're likely not looking for someone to overhear. If two people are standing fanned out so another person could easily walk up then you can jump right in.
I look for something to comment on in the situation we're both in. It can be anything. Maybe an astute observation or a funny comment. I pay attention to body language. If I want to kill time by talking to a stranger, I will only initiate if that person does not appear to be focused on something important or urgent or does not exhibit body language that says they want to be left alone.
It is a nice topic to talk about . Personally i had this kind of situation recently and i want to share how i did it .
I was enjoying my food at a restaurant and someone came next to me and sit down like 2 meters from me . I noticed him doing something that i usually do before eating and i introduced myself like this : sorry , i see we have common things and a asked him a question and started a chat with him and today i am developing a website for him .
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Lol Pretend your a damziel in distress? Lol Hmm not sure.. A simple excuse me? Hello? If its in a plane, would you like a sweet? Lol. Maybe just go with the flow.
First, try to understand what their interests are. Try to keep them in comfort zone.
It's fairly easy an accessory, wrist watch, bracelet, a magazine or novel can be a starting point for me. Oh nice outfit! And bang you got it going
I just begin talking as if we have already been in the middle of a conversation. Lol
No strategy .. no pre planned stuff .... it has to be natural and sincere ....