wow... i didn't even realize this was happening on this scale. i am so sorry so many of you had your lives thrown upside down and are put in the dark as people, as you put it, play with your lives to get what they want... it's truly disgusting and is reminiscent, too, of the horrible race relations in the state.
i'm thankful your wife is so amazing (and i'm sure you chipping in, too, and did some things;) ) ! and was able to procure all of this for you so you can get it worked out. as you say, you are lucky.
i will go ahead and watch the videos to get informed. you would think as humans we would be past this division stuff with the people in the "higher ups" dictating our lives and putting our freedom under threat... but nope! we have a long way to go... peace to you as you're in transition and may your family feel a sense of safety as you go through it!!