WARNING! This post includes truth and may offend you. But it may also make you a better person.
Being confident and believing you can do something seems to be a very hard struggle for a lot of people who want to go into business for themselves. There are a lot of questions that start with “what if?” and that begins to bring about fear, anxiety, and worry.
I’m going to fail
No one will be interested
I cannot do this
I should have never tried this
I will get rejected
This will never work out
I will never get anyone to support me
These are just a few negative thoughts that come about and begin to make you sabotage yourself before you begin to even do step 1. How will you ever know what will work and what will not if you do not try anything at all? You cannot know. Why do this to yourself? Why make yourself believe that you cannot do something and that you do not have any skills? Why?I have found that much negative thinking comes from past pain and failed attempts but why make those things stop you? and yes I meant to say MAKE. Because you are not letting them stop you, to let something stop you, you have to give it permission, you are MAKING these things stop you because you are the only one who is thinking these negative about yourself. So the only person to stop it is you. Yes, I know it is hard to try something new and yes I know it is not easy and you tried many attempts that didn’t work, so what you just give up now? So you will be giving up from now on with everything you want to do right? When you are constipated do you give up then? Nope, you do what you need to do to get that shit out because it hurts like hell and it is very uncomfortable.
So, start to treat your life like your backed up gut that needs a release. Get you a plan, work on that plan, and work on it until you get your release and are where you want to be and are happy, content and satisfied, just like dropping that log and finding relief. You may have stayed in that bathroom for over an hour pushing, and grunting and bearing down to get all that bad shit out and when it came out you let out a happy sigh of “Thank God that is over I needed that”.
Well, that is your mind right now, a backed up piece of shit. You are filled with negative thinking, depression, hopelessness, sadness, sorrow, anguish. And all it has done is given you discomfort, misery, pain, and even made you angry because you just want it out. Well, get it out. How? The only way to do so is to stop thinking bad about yourself first off, and believe you have something good you can do and that you have skills you can apply to live. I mean, I seriously doubt you are just here to take up space and oxygen and that’s it. Just like you spent long hours in the john working to get out all the backed up waste, how much time will you spend on yourself to get out your waste within your mind? How much time will you spend on yourself to repair yourself?
If you do not believe that you have value and something to offer than how can you expect anyone else to? Who is going to trust you when you second guess yourself so much that even the other person begins to think maybe you don’t know what you are doing, maybe you are not the right person for the job. It is more than just saying you want to be in business for yourself, you have to believe you have the ability to put forth the efforts and make it happen.
And if you fail at something so what, try again, try a different strategy, try a different plan. Who says you had to stop at one failure attempt? They say Rome wasn’t built in a day, but I wonder how many times they failed at building it before they got it right? Time is of the essence and only time will tell, but growth can only happen when you stop bitching and start working. If they were giving out money for whining there would be way more billionaires in this world.Hey, this may come off a bit mean and rude and unprofessional but one thing its is, it is real. I get tired of hearing people cuddle the feelings of others knowing when they get out into the real world and have to deal with the real deal, it is not going to be any lollipops and cotton candy. It's lions, spiders, wolves, snakes, and all kind of grim stuff and brutally honest people out there. You think I’m lying? Look at American Idol, how many contestants come on that show sounding like drowning goats and cats YET someone in their life said they had singing skills? It happens all the time, people just like to lie to spare feelings, but how does that help?
So, get up, get out the negative gloomy darkness of your mind, start thinking positive and better about yourself and your abilities. Take time to plan out your life, write down what you are good at, learn to perfect what you are not good at and build a business that makes you happy and complete and content. They say its best when you do what you love, but you can’t do that if you don’t love you.
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