it doesn’t matter if the ‘niceties’ in people’s behaviour is sometimes exaggerated because the very practice of kindness and gratitude brings on more genuine kindness and gratitude
You know I have to agree with you. People tend to unconsciously live up to the expectations you have of them. If you consistently encourage, support, and talk them up, they will surprise you. Besides, what's the alternative? Talk each other down like on YouTube? No thanks.