We will never be a self-assured person before we build a solid foundation of self-confidence. Many think that the confident person is the one who likes to be alone, being disinterested or unfriendly towards others. This is a totally wrong concept. By being independent of others, the confident person can relate to others with great compassion and empathy, while maintaining and balancing his self-esteem. Feeling able to stand on his own feet, he does not need to manipulate others. The main barrier to being self-confident is the false assumption that others are smarter, wiser or smarter than ourselves. This causes us to seek out others to gain happiness and prosperity. People who like to depend, should always look out for something external. He wants people, circumstances, conditions, doing what he should do himself for himself. It causes him to be relying on, manipulating, matching, comparing himself, and competing with others.
In these tips, we will learn how this destructive habit acts as a barrier to building a self-assured personality. But before, here's a little explanation of confidence. Confidence is not just believing that you can overcome things and become successful, but more than that. The confidence is to have the courage to listen to your conscience in search of clues about the success you really want. It means that you take a lead from within yourself and not by listening to something or someone outside of you, to get an idea of what you should do or have.
When we begin to learn to read "signs" properly and follow intuition or conscience, we can begin to trust ourselves and not just follow other people. Dependence is slavery that is done by mutual agreement. And that is disadvantageous to both parties, both dependent and reliable parties.
In order for such mutually exploiting relationships to exist, both parties must share the same deficiencies in self-confidence. The most unfortunate aspect of dependence is when you think you are dependent on others, you are right. You become neglected to develop the necessary confidence, and neglect to solve your own problems.
The definite feature of dependence on Steemit is when you get used to seeing others as superior and getting lots of Upvote. Once you begin to compare yourself with others, that's when you put yourself into psychological slavery. The habit of hanging on and relying on others is so attached to certain people or whales, that they give all their personal authority to please others.
They feel that they will be safe if they have found a person, organization, or community that they can grasp with blind obedience. They allow this person, organization, or community, to take responsibility for his happiness. And of course, it includes the luxury of having someone or something to blame every time they fail. The dependent person, relying on, is at the mercy of the people around him. He believes that the other person is smarter than him, and always finds others to be relied upon when a new problem confronts him.
As Minnow and relied upon, their clues became commands that he deemed to be obeyed. And there's often more than one "whales" so he's always in a state of confusion trying to decide who to follow. Most are free and worthless. You usually have dozens or more "free" who will gladly give you opinions or Upvotes, for free.
But because the other person is generally just preoccupied with his own problem, and does not know what really "should," "should" or "should" you do, then you will definitely get a wrong upvote. Most people can not solve their own problems.To overcome dependence is not easy. Since childhood we have been conditioned to seek out others in gaining welfare, guidance and wisdom. However, even though that dependency plays a role in our maturity and education, it was never meant to obliterate one's identity.
Each of us is born with the ability to solve every difficulty we experience. Read the following sentence and remember well: Nobody Can Disappoint You If You Do not Depend On It. No one can hurt your feelings, make you happy, lonely, or disappointed, if you do not rely on them to give you welfare, inspiration, love, or motivation.
The confident person does not need to find a lord as a place to depend on. He is able to face every challenge of life with self-belief and strength, by looking at every situation in the light of reality. He sees things as they are, unlike what he wants, and refuses to let his life be dominated by a rejection of reality.
Once you have developed confidence, you no longer need to delay, avoid or run from what you face, because you already have the confidence to deal with every life situation with self-assurance and calmness. You are free of worries because you know you are fully in control. You are not separate from the source of your own power. You do not need to get back the dose of inspiration and stimulation from others to do what you should do.
So you will undergo changes in steemit with full awareness that internal power within you is actually much larger than any problem at hand. So now we can do that to keep growing with other Steemians and foster brotherhood and start recruiting investors to be with us to head for confidence in Steemit. And do not ever wish those who are already whales now want to encourage you to grow unless you've been on theteemit since they were in steemit.
Today let's be at the beginning to improve the privilege of steemit by getting people around to grow together and establish relationships with investors so we can change and always believe in ourselves. thus confident with the #promo-steem approach is needed, not just aloof we will never change in steemit. Salam #Promo-Steem
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Another cool thing.
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hmm right.. we can be succeed without whales but first we should rely on ourselves... As there is a will there is a way.. ☺
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