Now, i am not going to try to bullshit you or insult your intelligence. I will say for a fact that my most productive time on hive (rewarding) were the times i was desperate and hungry to thrive. I could put in the time, set unrealistic comment goals, chitchat on discord, put out two or three posts a day. You basically saw me everywhere and it worked for the most part. I got most of what i wanted. I am in a position where i dont have to struggle for basic things anymore and problems are a bit complex.
Considering the changes in life my definition of ‘thriving’ changed as well. I could not be motivated by the money as much. In fact, i tend to do less when i am evening more because i think other people can fancy their chances of getting something from the reward pool when i am not churning articles every day and earning $40+.
Also, i think at this point in my journey writing, staking, and making 20 comments every day are the things that make me a committed hivian. They are fine and good, but mostly it primarily benefits me. If after a decade of being on this platform (actively) and all i can say is that i became rich, i don’t know, that’s so underwhelming.
I feel rich and comfortable (even if i don’t have so much) to be worried about myself and my goals all the time. Scheming and plotting all the time seems like a waste of my time. If i am doing anything then i should do so because i care about it, not because it’s going to add money to my pocket. I really find it to live by those standards anymore.
I am not trying to disrespect anyone who is at that stage in their life where their struggle is their only motivator. I have been there for the most part of my life and i understand how that energy can propel one to the next phase in their life, but at some point, you would need another reason to feel alive.
Recently, i was having a conversation with my partner (i learn a lot about myself talking to her), and during that conversation, we discovered a pattern in behaviour that i have never really considered. It was about my need or desire to get into difficult situations, mainly because those are the only times i am at my best.
My conversation with my partner reminded me of another conversation with a friend about extremities and why most people develop extreme habits when they achieve some level of success. This is because we all need a reason to feel alive and it should be strong enough to motivate us to be the best version of ourselves.
We all move up the Maslow hierarchy of needs at different stages in life and at each stage, we need to do things differently. What gets you off the bottom of the pyramid certainly will not sustain you at the top. We all need to reevaluate our position in life and know what’s best for us at that point in our lives.
Love is an integral part of self-actualization. I believe we become the best version of when we begin to do the things we care about and not out of necessity. It brings about the creativity and ingenuity that changes the world positively.
self love is really transformative, it gives us a new perspective. When we can look back and love our past selves that struggled through dark times. The sense of relief in that moment is palpable and it washes away any lingering bad feeling...
With these rose tinted glasses it's possible to interact with the hive community with the intention to share our unique perspective and add value to the intellectual discourse.
In difficult times we develop coping mechanisms to lift ourselves up and with time it's healthy to unlearn these behaviours to fully step into our power.
You just summed up my idea nicely. It's quite strange when I talk about things like this and people assume I am financially feeling or don't have challenges, which is far from the reality. I just appreciate my journey and that keeps my mind out of the gutters. This way I can still do what I want but positively while impacting the lives of the people in my sphere.
Indeed. I appreciate that you understand that we are not all on your level.
I've been inspired by many people on Hive and to get back to it where I actually left the blockchain completely. Life had some major curveballs to throw at me.
But I bounced back, better than ever I believe. Ready and willing to put in the time and energy to get myself to the next level.
While I am motivated and the position I am in is so much better than what it was 3 years ago, better than last year too... I am not yet "rich" so to speak.
I have some spare money, I am not starving or about to be put on the street. However, this amount that I have available does not put me into a position where I can rest easy.
I have 3 kids and outstanding bills to pay. I need to pave my way to that goal.
I guess I am very much still at that point where I can be driven to success by having the fire lit beneath me... but I have enough to be lazy and complacent. I do think I enjoy what I am doing here.
I think I am quite motivated because of wanting more for my partner and the kids.
I hope to get to your level someday. But I have dreamt of what I would do if I got to that stage where the money did not matter.
I guess now would be the best time for you to actually influence the world around you. To aspire to a cause of some sort.
Perhaps you are already working on something like that.
Thanks for stopping by and I appreciate your comment. Sorry, I took so long to reply.
I get what you are saying in your comment. I still have my struggles (a lot). I have some stability in my life but that doesn't mean I can relax totally.
I understand the need to be motivated and we all can be motivated by other things asides from having money. You mentioned wanted to get to a certain level because of your family. It is more than the money for you (I think).
I am grateful for what I have got and still aspire for more, however, my gratitude overrides whatever desire I have. It makes me work in love and I appreciate everything I get. I am not poisoned by unrealistic expectations or entitlement. That's just the difference from most people.
Indeed. Money does strange things to people and their egos.
Sometimes it becomes a real drag dealing with people that have inflated their sense of self worth because they now have more money and assets than others. As though they are now more worthy of having an opinion.
That's a whole other rabbit hole to fall in to.
Sticking to the topic, yeah, you are right. it is far more than the money when it comes to the security and happiness of my family. Being able to go out and do things and not fear whether or not I can afford to pay those bills is the driving factor right now.
I have two large bills that are outstanding. One was caused because of the Covid pandemic and the loss of income various restrictions and lockdowns caused businesses to have a crunch, this is a bill where I owe the one school some back payments. The second was caused because I needed to take a loan in order to improve my financial situation.
I am now in a better financial situation where my budget works far better. I do not have to fear meeting those budgets and having money spare.
Backed by that further are my Hive and Splinterlands assets I only recently discovered! This means there is a massive potential to grow and instead of taking 2-5 years to become more financially stable, I can pay off those debts sooner, all the while increasing the quality of life my kids are having.
That is what is most important to me.
Oh well, I wish you good luck clearing those debts. I have a few debts to clear myself and it's been hellish but what is life with a little push yeah?
I always try to see things from the bright. These days of struggle are probably going to be our best because we look at them with gratitude, knowing how far we've grown.
I think most people can't do it for love because they rely mainly on the financial aspects of it to survive.
Love and light to those people...
😆 love and light indeed.
I am of the notion that doing what you love will eventually become a source of wealth if done well, atleast that’s why I studied medicine in school, I loved the idea of being a doctor from childhood, so being one now is less stressful and at the same time, quite satisfying for me
Interesting. I understand that doctors save lives but it's such a tough profession. I do not think I have it in me to go through with it. Kudos to you.
We all find fulfillment doing the things we love.
The human body fascinates me, thats my mumu button...... But medicine is truly tough out here