That's a very touching line @lucylin. The one you concluded your comment with:
Actions of today that are honest of mind and heart, doesn't allow for the emotions of tomorrow to include guilt or shame.
I guess in the end then, for all and each one of us, it comes down to understanding what living mindfully in honesty entails. I guess that's where we get a bit confused. Because of the noise created by families, society and their expectations.
Yours is truly a great achievement. Having the insight that not fitting in with particular requirements doesn't mean that you are not the one in the wrong is liberating, and it doesn't happen for everyone. So, I now have a question for you: How does that sort of breakthrough realization comes about when one is in the midst of emotional chaos?
I also find your self-restraint (I've made sure not to execute the kind of actions, that lead to those emotions manifesting.) something worth praising. It's no wonder you feel psychologically free from the psychological distress you endured, as you seem to have conquered them through engaging in some thorough self-reflection :)
This is an incredible comment. Thank you for taking the time to share it here with us <3 Wishing you guys all the best always!
....there are scars from the journey, but that's life. (We all have 'em in one way or another).
The cost is high.
But I wouldn't pay a penny less! lol
Nah!
More like partying hard, hedonism, and narcotics - it was nothing that insightful, IMO.
(I never ate a single lentil during my entire 'self reflection' period! lol).
...Ok, a little bit flippant, but you see what I mean?
I already knew myself, somehow -I just needed some external confirmation about me, for a
yeardecade, or three....Negative family feedback, from as young as I can remember, needs some exhorcizing, I can tell you!!(With the exception of my Dad, of course.)
Have a great weekend!