Hello @abh12345 :)
Firstly, the level of quality in your work is off the scale here on the Steem Blockchain, and I thank you for raising the bar and giving us all something to aim for.
This is a very kind thing for you to say. Thank you so much!
You have brought me a truly interesting question here :)
Perhaps this 10% can be larger and eat into the ' 40% of intentional activities', which could indicate a more severe derailing if a major event occurred?
In my opinion this is absolutely possible. Because, remember, following this model, the 40% is all about being proactive. So, yes, if one just remains within the pain without engaging with no intentional activity at all, the 40% becomes 'inactive' and 'overpowered' by the life circumstance (10%).
This is something I have seen a lot in people who have gone through break ups.
So, let say, woman A (real case) - Got divorced 9 years ago - life circumstance; but, unfortunately never engaged in any intentional activity to overcome this sad event. Instead, she has spent all this time bitter about her ex, his current wife and life style. A is fully functional, she has a job she likes, and her son is a good kid. But, she is totally entrapped by those ill-feelings, which has actually defined her and her life for the past decade.
Now, woman B (also real case) - Got divorced 6 years ago, grieved for nearly a year and then discovered she had to do something to stop thinking of past events. She started salsa lessons, she decided to 'transform' her garden etc... at one point she was taking so many different classes she was struggling to keep up with things. But then she found balance and continued with her gardening and Yoga lessons. Nowadays, she only really thinks of her ex because of her children.
The reason I feel comfortable comparing these two cases is because both women describe themselves as extraverts; and also, they both asked for a divorce for similar reasons. But you see how, as you point out, in one case then 10% 'ate' into the 40% share of the model?
We just need to understand that no one else is responsible for our own mental and subjective well-being :)
All the best to you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to read and comment!
:)
It's my pleasure to try and make a valuable comment on your posts, they deserve as much!
This helps me understand that the 40% in the model can be flexible and vary for person to person, and I've certainly felt this is the case looking at the people around me.
Responsible, no, but perhaps some (myself included) seems to let others have an impact on it more than others?
Thanks again for motivating our brains to think!
Yet another good point here, which I agree with. And this is when factors such as personality come into play! :)